@ahmarissa, stick with it.. it's hard to see results right away but in the long run it will be worth it. set the tone from now.

Yes that is very true!, I have been asking a lot more lately and being firm and to the point we have been bickering a bit, I just don't know if it's going to change

@ahmarissa, @starting_over39 trust me!! U cant be a push over. Thats when shit starts to go down. Set ur relationship up how u want it from the beggining. And thats it! Put ur foot down. And dont yelid because he starts to be nice... Be firm and say what u want. Not in a bitchy way. But just straight to the point. Its not like ur asking for like money. Or some other stuff he cant provide. Ur asking for time.. And help.. Thats free! Wth! (Men annoy me)

@ahmarissa, my eldest is 18 and had him at 20 so I been there... starting over again but wiser this time around😋. Thank heavens for the internet.. help keep us sane lol

@starting_over39, yes that is very true!, thank you for the advice just was at a complete loss on what to do and most of my friends don't have kids so they don't understand it's difficult not really have friends who have kids to have discussions like this with

@ahmarissa, @party_of4
I agree.. action is necessary when your tired of talking.. I just would get a babysitter.. plan a night out with friends or visit family etc.. make it happen.. he will realize your not waiting around on him to bring you pleasure.. with or without him it will.happen. I love myself so much so if I feel underappreciated I start appreciating myself with rewards. nobody can love me more than me and my Creator. Men start to. change when they feel replaceable and see that you don't lie down and swallow crap.

@ahmarissa, exactly! So leave.. He will get the point

@party_of4, thanks so much for your advice I'm going to give it a try I'm just at a complete loss on what else I could do it's like nothing I say is helping I can keep talking about it but he's just not understanding it

I hate that part.. When they go out!! N not help. I found sitting down and actually saying how u feel helps. There men. And very stupid!! If u wanna be drastic pack a bag an go to ur moms or a friends, dont say anything at all. He will call.. Like!! Wth? Say i have no help an ive asked several times. So i went where others can help me.. Dont say "break" that means u left him or ur saying u wanna break up.. Just say!! I have no help.. And have to go where the help is. So i can go out too with my girls n have girl time.. See how fast his ass comes an gets you.. With them its just knowing how they think n the words u use..!be smart😘😘