I have a very difficult 5 year old who's been diagnosed with defiance disorder. Today was a rough…

what is defiAnce disorder. you just described me oldest

my oldest. dumb phone

No joke. Each child should come with pamphlets for every year saying what difficulties are going to pop up during that time so at least you can prepare. Try explaining to her that even though your heart is loves her to the moon and back, you do not like her choices some times just like she loves mommy but doesn't like the things mommy ask her to do. If you relate everything to her own emotions, she may understand it a bit better. ODD is a tough one and I wish I could say it gets easier but every day has its own unique challenges. Don't get down on yourself. You are doing the best you can

@dnhmommy3, Kids are usually diagnosed and show symptoms before 8. They are basically always irritable, aggressive, vindictive. The behavior is constant, not just a temper tantrum here and there. it's excessive.

@showersoverflowers, Thank you. She was diagnosed last year. I had taken her to the doctor because I thought she had like baby bi polar and her pediatrician said let's watch her for 6 months and now here we are.

I'm glad you have some direction. is she in occupational therapy?

@showersoverflowers, She is, and it's helped a lot, but we still have some really bad days

my five yr old told me he hated me the other day 😳 @ceeasquared

my 3 yr old tells me she doesn't like me.. shit breaks my heart.. she only says it when i tell her not to do something though.. 😕

I know what you mean, we all have moments that make us feel like horrible parents. Just gotta take a step back and just remember that you are a good mom who is just having a bad day. We are human too.