I was abused my whole life. is is bad to want to try and give my dad (my abuser) a chance to redeem…

There is no right or wrog answer hun. It's a personal decision that you need to make based on what you want. Best of luck to you! Stay strong

Yes you should, forgive him, you will get further

I forgave my step dad and my father but will not ever forget what happened to me. You have to do what is best and healthiest for you and your family. Praying you can make a decision you are happy with.

this is just one woman's advice of course. but I've been in those shoes. they are hard shoes to be in... let me just say this... sometimes there are things that are just better left in the past. I tried once too, and ended up having my heart broken. of course you are an adult now, and him putting his hands on you are out of the question. but that actually makes things all the worse... he took away moments of your childhood that no one is able to fix. I have learned that when a person experiences abuse when they are a child, it makes them able to forgive more in their hearts. we are able to move forward and give second chances more than the average person... we learned how to do this when we lived with our abuser. that's why women who were abused tend to live with men that are similar, or give second chances to their partners more for whatever their wrong beings are...

long story short. don't sell yourself short. be strong and remember all the good you are without them influencing you. you are soon to be a mommy!! there is going to be so much love and things to occupy your kond, your shouldn't have to look back or give anyone another chance :)

from one victim to another :)

mind* not kond lol

he started posting things saying he loves and misses me and hasn't for 3 years and I know he is sick so it scares me

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For me it would depend on what type of abuse it was