@michellevaldez4750, I'm thinking I have the same decision to make. We've gotta do what is best for us and our children. I'm kind of hoping after I went off last night like I did that he kind of gets it but I doubt it. So when he gets up today we're talking about it because I refuse to let this shit go any longer

I know what you mean :'( I'm right there with you dealing with the same shit. smh. I've got a huge decision to make once this baby is born and I'm not looking forward to having to make it!

@arijane316, I'm going to talk to him tonight because if this keeps happening 8 years together or not I'm gonna just leave. I don't deserve the way he has been treating me and I sure as hell didn't deserve him cheating on my. we have a lot to work through but I'm hoping we can actually make progress. especially for our children

girl, if this has been happening for a while, just leave. the more you threaten and don't act, the less he's going to believe it

I'm sorry but some of the things people are saying are a bit silly. I know plenty of guys who stay the night at their friends house that also is a guy. Nothing weird about that. Sit him down and talk to him. I don't think he would cheat again if he openly admitted to it before. that's the first step to change and you can't hold that against him forever.. Speak to him like an adult and don't lash out.

@themommaoffour, I know how hard it is to leave someone you've been with for so many years, especially when there are little ones involved but I know you wouldn't want your son to hurt his future wife like this or your daughters to go through what you're going through. He's too old to be acting 16, having sleepovers and not considering your feelings. He doesn't even care enough to make you feel secure after admitting to cheating on you. He might be a good person and a good dad, idk. He's definitely not acting like a good partner or role model and that's what's important. P

I asked him how he can be gone all night especially when our midwife said that I could go anytime with this baby. He just keeps telling me well I have my phone (which he only answers half the time) I'm seriously about to give up if he doesn't start proving he wants to be with me. We have 3 little girls and our little man is due soon. I'm sick of feeling like I don't matter to him. I've been faithful and doing what I need to for our children and he gets to go do whatever he wants with whoever he wants. @jesjeslovesyou I'm gonna make him sit down and actually talk to me. if he can't handle what I have to say then I guess it's up to him what he does but I won't sit here and wait anymore

@themommaoffour, sit him down and ask him if he honestly still wants to be with you. What he's doing is showing otherwise. What grown ass man stays at his friends house overnight when he has a home to come to? Especially with a wife who is 35 weeks pregnant?

@jesjeslovesyou, I tried giving him the benefit of the doubt but I honestly don't trust him. I know if 2 of his friends had been there he'd be home because they respect me and have since day one. He and I are ALWAYS arguing. I thought about marriage counseling but at this point I don't know if even that would work. we've been together for 8 years and he's just now coming clean about everything

I'm sorry you're going thru that :(

If he loved you he wouldn't be able to continuously hurt you like this.

@themommaoffour, oh love. This guy is hurting you. He knows it and does not care. Read your situation out loud and think about what you would tell your closest friend or sibling to do. It sounds like he is cheating on you and I usually NEVER say that because all situations is different but he isn't coming home and claims to be at another MANS house overnight while his beautiful woman is 35 weeks pregnant. That's not making any sense.

@jesjeslovesyou, he just recently admitted to cheating on me so it's always in the back of my mind. I'm struggling with thinking that he may be with another girl again. I already don't trust him and he knows it. The guy that he's stayed over there said he'll make sure he gets home today. but they couldn't make sure he made it home last night with everything that was going on! 😡😡

And you're 35 weeks pregnant?!? Oh mama... Your man is supposedly with another man all night long and you're at home preparing for a child to be born.

I don't know ANY guy that sleeps over at another mans house. How do you feel about that? Do you trust that he is where he says he is?

@babymama2016, he stayed at a guys house that I've never personally met. I text him and he said sorry we just woke up. yeah sorry my ass he knew he was supposed to be home. and on top of not feeling good last night I was having contractions.

@arijane316 I always tell him I'm done. if I can't trust him to come home then he better not expect me to stay here and wait for him when he never comes through.

:( where did he spend the night? I'm sorry i know exactly how you feel.

I'd be so pissed that I'd tell him not to come home anyway

Whoa.