Sorry for the long post..
I need some serious up lifting.. about two weeks ago my SO and I split up. We have been together for 3 and a half years and have the most adorable son that is 9mnths old. Since becoming pregnant and giving birth, I leaned on my SO for alot of things bc I literally went through what every other FTP goes through and lots my network of friends. I noticed that my SO played ALOT of video and computer games and I wanted him to at least compromise a little of his time to "us". I would get depressed bc I would have no one to talk to or go do things with like I used too and he would go do things accasionally and I guess I would get jealous and upset. So we fought alot and not like screaming fights but just enough to upset each other. We have always had a problem with money and I am not the best person at dealing with being BROKE so I took alot of stress out on him.. But anyways at first he said he was done with no light at the end of the tunnel for us untill about last week when he said he missed me and we needed to work on things but still be separated for a while longer until we work out our kinks. Which I am okay with if it means having our family back together, Id do anything. I just have a hard time dealing it everything bc I went from my HOME to staying in a little bedroom at my dads and he has our huge house that now his brother and two daughters that he has part time staying with him to help his brother out for a month or two. I walked in the other day and my son's room is not my son's room anymore bc his brother in there and our office is now the girls room. Like how am I supposed to deal with that?! What if I wanted to just lay on the couch with my SO with nothing more than a t-shirt and watch TV? How can I deal with my son's room is now in different parts of the house? How do I deal with not being there every morning waking up next to my SO? How do I deal with not just walking in to my house anymore bc I have to knock and let them know I am coming over? I know that I am still gonna be at my dads for a while but still. All of these emotions are so hard and overwhelming.
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just relax and play it day to day dont expect anything because once you expect a specific outcome you will be disappointed for sure so just try to focus more on you and baby and less on that house and him. everything will be ok and the house can be changed back, but seriously if hes so focused on games n other stuff really how happy were u anyway it will be ok time heals all i promise !
@babes101116, thanks. I have learned through all of this that I am a very negative person and that added to alot of our problems. /:
Try to focus on the positive, not the negative. It's going to take time to get used to it but take it day by day.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
Hi
I am into my 15 week now
But since last two days am not having good feeling....I just feel something is wrong inside wid d kid...all my symptoms r too less
Morning sickness is gone....Metallic taste of my tounge is also less....and I feel pain in my abdoman twice or thrice which is very minor though
What should i do i am very confused
Already have gone through 5 scans because of changing gynec
Just feel that untill i hear the heartbeat or see my kid i wont b ok....got sleepless nights
Trigger. Lost baby
Went in for my 20 week check up and found out our son had passed away. Nothing was wrong, my pregnancy has been going great. I'm so numb right now. I'll he delivering him later this week. I don't want to do this. I don't want to do this. Not before Christmas. How am I'm going to tell my kids?? My dear sweet baby boy. Why did this happen?
Locking your doors
We are having a discussion on one of my birth boards from my older kids about locking doors and security alarms. There are many of us (me included) who do not lock our doors at home (I actually don't even have a deadbolt on my house and we don't lock it when we leave either), and others who think that's totally weird. So what do you do? Do you lock your doors? Do you think it's weird that people don't?
@cocored55, yea I just need to take a breather and look at the bigger picture.. I was really happy in our relationship untill just recently.