Need help.....father of child pretty much got CAS involved already.... :'(
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@greenapplez0901, if you have concerns about him for sure share that, you have the right to protect your child. The truth comes out in the end when people like him are involved and trying to hurt you and baby by involving children services. You will be okay, you focus on yourself and while you may not be far along in your pregnancy that doesn't change you are a momma bear worried for her baby. Try to remain calm when having any dealings with him and you will come out on top. Don't stress to much, take care of you and baby. ♡♡
I know I'm only 14 weeks but I just want to protect my baby when it's born....
I just want what's best for my baby.... and I know it seems wrong... but I feel what's best is for him to not have any visits or anything.... I just don't feel I can trust him...
he is a hot mess.... he's irresponsible and stupid... all the money he gets goes to drugs and alcohol so I'm scared it's gonna be the same when it comes to my child and that's not what I want.... that's why I just feel it'd be better without him completely.... I know it sounds harsh and wrong but I'm just trying to think of my child....
and just today I was at a place signing up for a bunch of groups for pregnancy. and I already keep all receipts so that won't be a problem lol... I'm trying to be strong it's just he has a way of getting to me... I just feel if anything he's the reason CAS would be involved because of him always smoking and drinking... like literally he is incapable of going 1 single day without it. he goes nuts if he doesn't have smokes or weed for just 1 day.... and when we were together he would take it out on me and yell at me for it...
I'm a social worker and while CAS may contact you they aren't going to open a file on someone who is 14 weeks pregnant. They may speak to you to get your side of the story in case the father continues to make calls or complaints which will in the long term work against him, not in his favor. Just be honest and let the worker know you're concerned to. you are the mom, you have the right to be worried and ask questions and be informed on everything. Also, they may not even contact you, if you're feeling anxious about it, reach out and simply ask if they plan to be investigating the matter further. If you have any specific questions feel free to message me here. The legislation may be a little different here in Alberta but I'm sure I could figure it out. I can say if you're already thinking ahead and worried for babies well being you're on the right track and will be a great mom. Keep doing you, stay strong, and prove this guy to be the turd that he is.
lol @party_of4 .. yeah they look for any excuse sometimes to open a case.. you have to be firm and show no fear especially when you know you are being a good mother and your kids are in a stable home.
The ladies are right! And keep all you receipts of everything you bought.. Then ask them for his! Until he can buy shit! Tell them he cant tell you nothing because ur taking care if your child.. Wtf, dont be scared to tell those ppl ur mind. They tried coming to my home once because my daughter saw her dad n his sis in a big argument, it upset her n she went to school crying. Next thing i know cas comes to my house n they where not even arguing in my home.i fUckin flipped, she wanted me to sign a paper to go watch my kids in school. Fuck off lady. Do they look endangered to u?no!? Do they look starving to you.. No? Is my fridge full??yes!? Do they have bed? Yes? Am i working? Yes? Leave my fuckin home an cut the shit plz! Shes like sorry.. Sorry my ass!! 😔
I know Ottawa.. CAS for single moms is like the police for criminals lol.. I lived there for several yrs.. it's a government city and very pro active about it. research Algonquin programs etc.. start looking ahead as well for you and baby future. I don't know all your business but look into online classes etc.. Use his negative intentions to propel you ahead in life. sometimes a disappointment can be your blessing 😉😉
He sounds like a hot mess.. dot your eyes and cross your It's with this guy. best advice be a step a head of him at all times. make sure baby is vaccinated on time go to all doc appointments and join support groups, mommy classes. The more you cover theses areas CAS will not stick around and dad will back off.
ok.... that helps... thank you.... I just hate that the one time I hear from him it's this... and quite honestly I don't want him to have anything to do with this child because of how irresponsible he is.... I'm trying to think of the well being of my child.... and for that I strongly feel it's best he has no connections.... I mean the damn guy wants my child to be a satanist and teach them to play with fire!
don't worry yourself too much about it CAS is not there to mess with your life and take your kids. as long as you are in a safe place, and you're taking care of your baby it will be fine. they are also there to help you as well, if they see you are in need of anything they will help you get it. they got involved with my son because of something that happened with my step daughter. they saw that my son was safe, and our house was safe and they left. they also saw that weed was in our home, and didn't have a problem with it because it was kept away from the kids.
he texted me tonight saying how he told his lawyer a few things I've done and about my mental health and about where I'm staying and apparently his lawyer now has CAS involved.... idk what to do.... I haven't done anything wrong. I quit cigarettes and quit weed. all he does is smoke and drink... he spent all our food money on weed smokes and booze before we broke up.... and I'm living with my parents.... where's the problem in that....
thank you for all your help girls. and I know I'm trying to not stress and I have been taking care of myself and my baby :) eating a lot and eating healthy. might even take a nice bath tonight haha