anyone else have a sibling that your parents favor over you? I've dealt with it my whole entire…
anyone else have a sibling that your parents favor over you? I've dealt with it my whole entire life. My sister is 27, I'm 23. She's always been a textbook "over achiever." Not that there's anything wrong with that, but academics were never my strong suit. I have always been a pretty average student. Not terrible, but not great. My sister has two masters degrees, where I only completed up to my junior year in college. I just couldn't find my "niche" so to speak. I switched majors more than once. Then my junior year I dropped out because I was in an abusive relationship and the stress was causing me to fail a lot of my classes. I never went back, but since then I've been employed at Apple (where I met my boyfriend and baby daddy) and most recently before having Oakley I worked for Microsoft. But despite that all ive ever heard from my mom and dad (who never finished college themselves) is "why can't you be more like your sister." And now here I am 23 with a baby that wasn't exactly planned, but I am SO happy to be a mother. We just weren't in the best place financially when I got pregnant and we've been saving money ever since. I constantly hear my mom talking on the phone to people telling them how she and my dad wish I would have accomplished more and done more with my life and how I'll never be as good as my sister. All because I chose not to go back to school and waste money when I would just be stuck doing something that I really don't want to do, all with a pile of debt in my wake. It's extremely heartbreaking that my mom and dad can't just accept me for ME, they just want me to be more like her.
aja·
Мама двоих (2 года, 10 лет), ждёт третьего
a college education is nice, but it's not the end of the world. most of the rich people with billionaire businesses don't have a degree. heck I've been on my job for 8 years making 33 dollars an hour with no degree and that's way more than my friends that graduated. I'll eventually go back to school but right now having 3 kids I need to focus on them. once every one is in their teens I'll go back to school..that's about 10 yrs from now and I'm 29
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in my opinion school isnt for everyone!
Michelle Valdez·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
My whole family favors my sister over me because of my past. they don't treat me bad though, it really breaks my heart to see the way your parents treat you. They are lucky to have a daughter as sweet as you! and you still help them out any way you can even with the way they are. It says a lot about you as a person and a lot about them as well.
Ciara·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Not sure if it would solve anything but have you tried talking to them and explaining that it hurts you and you just want them to accept you for who you are? I was a teen mom, then in an abusive relationship, went to college then wrecked my moms car (accident!) and dropped out of college. I'm now 21 with 2 kids. I have two older sisters my oldest is just like your sister! She went to college she works for the city she lives in. Found out she was pregnant and got married. She now has 2 girls her own house the "perfect" life. My other sister no one really talks to since she constantly lies and is a very mean person..but although my sister & I had totally different paths my parents don't treat me any differently. It's sad that they would do that. 😔
emily·
Мама сына-младенца
Oh I've tried speaking to them about it so many times I've lost count. They always deny that they treat me any differently. My psychiatrist that I saw in high school even made them come in to one of my sessions to mediate and my dad left screaming that I could never go back there because all I did was "make him look bad." Unfortunately they are so high up and tangled in their own egos that they don't bother to care how much their actions hurt me. All they care about is that I'm not like my sister. My dad is buddy buddy with my sister's boyfriend whenever they're in town but treats my boyfriend like shit. My dad hasn't even seen my baby who is a month old even though we are living at his house. He doesn't care about me or anything that has to do with me. My baby deserves better than that. I don't think my mom realizes how serious I am when I tell her as soon as I leave here I am NEVER speaking to any of them again. They can have their perfect family just the three of them, and I'll have mine. It just really sucks. @ciaramarie
emily·
Мама сына-младенца
Also, last summer around this time, exactly a month before I got pregnant I made a really shitty decision and wrecked my new car. Ever since then I've been even more of an outcast to this family. But my parents aren't even good people, that's the shitty part. They don't have any reason to have such blown up egos, to be perfectly honest they are both kind of losers! @ciaramarie
Ciara·
Мама двоих (младенец)
I'm so sorry! My parents didn't attend college either and although they want that for us they never push it onto us. My boyfriend feels as if he's the less liked from him and my brother in law and it really bothers him since he doesn't really have family..we were also living with my parents and we just moved 2&1/2 hours away (3&1/2 from my sister) and let me tell you it's kind of nice to get away from everyone! My mom even realized how much she misses us lol.
Erica·
my mom favors all my siblings over me. we've spoken 3 times in 11 years and I'm only 20 lol. my dad didn't know I was his until last year so he favors all his other kids over me. I live with my bf and his parents rn and they are more parents to me then mine ever were.
R.·
my mom and dad say they don't but I always know they did. he's a published author now. I'm a soon to be divorced mom of one at 25 still living with them. they always say I'm successful too but I know they don't mean it. they have to say it. he's always made good grades in school. most of my teachers even asked how he was. so I stopped trying in school.
Anna-marie·
Мама дочки (1 год)
I think my parents are proud of my sister she put herself through school , worked a couple jobs and never had a child owned her own things and so on . I got pregnant at 18 don't have a full time job yet since helping out with my mom they say they are proud and help me active my goals but I feel like they are disappointed
emily·
Мама сына-младенца
My parents don't hide that they're disappointed. My dad won't even look at Oakley, like he's ashamed that he exists or something, and it makes me sick. I worked full time before I got pregnant, but my sister has been and always will be better than me. She has several degrees and lives in the mountains with her boyfriend who's an engineer. My parents just think I'm a giant loser and it really sucks. @alainalovesmommy
emily·
Мама сына-младенца
We've been staying at my parents house the last few months while we save up some money for a new place and my moms made it no secret that I'm not welcome here. The other day she basically told us to gtfo, but we literally have no where to go at the moment. So I have no idea what to do. I just want to be somewhere where I actually feel welcome and know Oakley is safe and isn't gonna get thrown out for no reason. @alainalovesmommy
Anna-marie·
Мама дочки (1 год)
that's crazy my parents never been assholes like that I'm so sorry . if I had my own place and you lived close I would let you stay with me but I live with my mother . you have a child and just can't go place to place can't believe they won't accept him one day they will figure out that they were stupid
emily·
Мама сына-младенца
Yeah, I've made the decision that after I leave here I'm cutting them out of my life. Ever since I was a little kid they've both done nothing but make me feel worthless and unwanted, I'm not going to let them do the same to my baby. I was under the impression that I would always have a home here, but I was dead wrong apparently. We have money saved up but i wanted to have a bit more put back before getting a new place. Unfortunately we're just gonna have to jump the gun and find somewhere fast. @alainalovesmommy