Thanks Hun, yeah talking just makes everything worse so we have to hope she fucks up and social sees they have made a mistake and places him back with us so he can be raised and looked after better, fingers crossed it gets sorted @tresea xx

It must be so hard being happy and settled having friends and family around you all the time to just be moved away I think it would be hard on an adult never mind a child and had his Mam has him most of the time now she has plenty of time to put bad thoughts in he's head and honestly I think talking to her would just make it worse I really hope it all works or for you xx

Yes they have handled the whole situation badly, he was happy with us and at the same school from nursery till year 3 then to be able to be just moved and up rooted is ridiculous, she wouldn't even tell my OH what school he was going to, he had to hear a month later from social services :/ yeah we have the same problem, we now only have him every other weekend which again I don't agree with but he will be awful Friday and Saturday them Sunday he will be back to normal but what we have to remember is it must be hard for him and it's his mothers fault not his...I just want the whole situation sorted for his sake @tresea xx

That's terrible they in my opinion they shouldn't of been asking him at all if he already had a stable home and to just me up rooted like that can't have been nice for him my cousins step son loves he my cousin and his brother and sister until he sees his Mam then all of a sudden he doesn't want to no them for a few days and she said it was really bad while he was staying with his Mam but now that it's many just day visits now and then it's not so bad but she must be saying some nasty stuff while she has him xx

Because it was a social agreement and not done by court then they couldn't do anything about it, she took him from school one day and changed his school without telling my OH which I really do not see how that happened without some concern being raised but anyway because he was accepted into the school near her house social decided to investigate and see if she was fit to be a mum and asked my step son of he wanted to stay there to which he said yes but if they had asked him when he was here then he would of said he wants to stay here because he doesn't want anyone to be upset. I personally think a lot of things haven't been done right in this case but were trying to get it back how it used to be, it's hard for kids and attitudes do change when situations change which can then be difficult for everyone else around :/ @tresea cxx

If you and oh had full custody how did she just take him I don't mean to sound rude it's just that my cousin is going through something similar at the moment and I just don't understand how the birth Mam can just take them If you have custody my cousins oh ex was the same didn't have much to do with her son until she found out she was pregnant my cousin is now married with to kids of her one with him and still having problems with the ex they have him a lot of the time now as the ex as lost interest agen but when she dose have him even for just the day my cousin has said that he comes home different then he normally is and takes awhile to get back to he's self xx

You would think wouldn't you @daisysmummy but social aren't as helpful as they should be xx

It's more the fact the things my step son says towards my OH like he hates him, it upsets my OH then puts tension on is two because he's upset, it's a horrible situation. It's horrible when exs and kids come between relationships and not fair either but I agree it really is hard @barnold xxx

@briony1994, that is so wrong! Surely what she is doing counts as mental abuse! xx

@daisysmummy, he's 8 in two weeks, social services have said he's OK to stay with his mum but they are now back involved regarding her and her husband, they've said all we can do is wait because there is no major concern for him living there which I think is absolutely ridiculous:/ @tg123456789 yeah I'm due in 2 weeks and really don't want him around the baby while he's like this which makes me feel so horrible but he's already said if the baby wakes him up at night by crying he will throw her out the window😭 his mum must be putting some horrible stuff into his head because I know he's not like this, when he lived with us full time he was such a nice boy, yes still had an attitude but so does every 7 year old. I hope soon social services see something is wrong and puts him back with us because I know after a week he will be back to his old self and be better. When his mum found out I was pregnant she suddenly started to get worse and then started with my step son and just took him :/ I would rather have him here full time because I know he will have a better life with us and that's all I want for the kid xx

@briony1994, i have similar issues with my stepson.. few weeks back it got so bad hubby gave his wedding ring back to me.. you both need to open up completely on how you feel to just get ur emotions out and then try to come up with a plan on how to deal with his son in a way ur not creating more tension with him or between yourselves.. its bloody difficult i know.. were still struggling but the one thing i can say you need to do is stand strong together.. kids pick up on the little things and if he sees u both not agreeing he will go with it and use it.. with us were brushing over any hurtful or nasty comments he makes.. just replying with, 'its a shame you think like that but ok'.. not making a deal about it or giving him scope to carry it on.. in terms of the mother, that's difficult.. im not allowed to say anything but soo want to.. i hope you can manage to sort something and don't let it ruin things with oh.. inbox me anytime if u need to xx

jesus. i hope it sorts otself out soon preferably before ur little girl is here as id feel uneasy otherwise but arent u due in like 2 weeks :/

its obvious its the mum and by sounds she doesnt deserve kids.

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This is awful! Poor little boy 💔 how old is he? Is there nothing your OH can do to get custody back? xxx

Yeah it is 100% his mum, me and OH have been together just over a year but I've known both my OH and his mum since I was young and also known my now step son since he was a baby, my OH had him full time for 5 years and he's lived with me aswell since me and his dad have been together, he's got such an attitude now and is becoming violent towards people, he's even said to me that if I wasn't pregnant he'd belt me :/ there's no way of talking to his mum because she just holds him against my OH :/ He's been living with his mum for a couple months now and social services are back involved...says something because 5 years of them not being involved and 2 months of her having him and they need to be involved again :/ I just hope something changes soon @tg123456789 xx

its def the mum @briony1994 hes too young to think things hiself and stick to them like the things he says about hating baby. its got to be constantly said to him for him to repeat and have it in his mind. ull have to talk to oh and stick by each other and know its that poison. didnt realise when u said last time bout him that he was once in ur full time care and for so long. can u speak to the mum? tell her to grow up and get a grip? x