I normally don't ask questions like this, but my husband's friend bothered me about this. Do any of you mommies have a "needy" husband? For example, my husband wants my attention from the time he gets home from work until we go to bed and on his days off he wants me next to him every second. His friend (has 2 kids) said to me we'll be divorced within 2 years after having a baby and when I asked him why? He said because my husband is "needy and an attention whore" and I said well it'll be okay we'll figure something out and he said "no probably not because Lance wants attention all the time and you're not going to be able to give him all that attention when you guys have a baby and Lance is going to end up leaving you." Do any mom's have a husband who was/is "needy" like this and changed for the baby or did they leave you? What he said above, bothers me.
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That's how I am with my hubby :) just ignore the negative people. They're a dime a dozen, just focus on your family and y'all will be just fine 💛
Wow. That was a really rude thing to say. You guys will be totally fine. You won't be the only one occupied with a new baby. Your hubby will want to spend just as much time with the new little one. If anything, you might get MORE alone time cause he'll be occupied with baby. But you'll just add baby to whatever you guys normally do.its called family time... It sounds like the person is just jealous and a good friend would never say something like that
You go girl! I think you guys will be fine and only love each other more once the babies come
It is hard but my husband and I do have a very rare love for each other and we're not people who give up. We don't tend to fight, we disagree sometimes and we're over it within seconds. I told his friend the other night nobody cared what he thought. lol he got mad because I said, instead of coming over here and coaching us on our marriage, how about you go actually spend time with your kids or take your own advice and try to get along with both of your baby mama's for the sake of your kids instead of being a POS baby daddy and father.
Thank you @canaryv that was kind of what I was hoping and looking for. I know he's going to be one of the best dad's ever! He likes the attention because of his shift. he works A LOT and he loves to come home and spend as much time as he possibly can with me. I honestly don't feel it as an attention thing for him as it is for me. I think he is like that so I never say he doesn't give me any attention. But I know he does it for himself as well. His friend really irritates me.
I probably don't have the most popular opinion on this topic, but I think a marriage should have slightly more priority over raising your future children. When you think about it, your kids are only with you for 18-21 years but your husband is with you til death, ideally. Now, I don't mean that to say choose your hubby over your kids but it's just as important to nurture your relationship with him as it is to nurture your children. If y'all can find a good balance then y'all will be perfectly happy :) I'm sure once he becomes a dad that he'll want attention from the kids just as much as he wants it from you so he won't really be losing anything. Just gaining a whole lot more loving 💛
@marinarose, I don't think it'll be a big deal. We have our nieces and nephews over sometimes and he backs off and helps me feed them or goes and plays with them. This asshole just said it's different with our own kids and he is going to leave me. I was really pissed off and then I got all worried about it... In my previous posts. He's the same asshole that tried to talk my husband out of having babies at all. I try to take the things he says with a grain of salt but this one bothered me.
My boyfriend is super needy. I told him my son is my priority not him. I will give him attention and love on him when I can buy if my son needs me then he can relax for a little bit and let me do my job as a mother. He understands. He would rather me do everything that has to do with the baby so he backs off when I need him to. Don't worry, if you two really love each other things will work out. Talk about it before you have children and start weaning him from it 😂
Wow..that's so rude to say. First of all, it's none of his business how your husband is. Secondly, there's a difference between "needy" and wanting to spend time with the person you love. My husband is the same way, and no...he won't leave me when we have a baby. Don't worry about people who say stupid stuff, girl!