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I think you r just expressing urself it was calm and simply put to me.

But did I seem mean? Because he said he doesn't want to talk about it anymore. I mean I am not in his shoes so I don't know how to explain it. We are both only children so we don't know what it feels like. I don't understand what the issue is honestly. @preggersblues

Oh an let me throw In their that there is a possibility this child will be born on the 7 year olds birthday as well. So think about how birthday party's will go and getting less presents and sharing a party with a brother. @preggersblues

No, he's probably just feeling like theres nothing you guys can do about it so you know men they rather not harp on it.

Awe. We are also naming our little one Easton!

well my nephew is 5 and he asked me wld my baby be hus replacement being that my child is 12 he has basicly been my baby. but once I explained hell always be my love and this baby is not his replacement because to me he cant be replaced . He has come around, but my daughter is still feeling some type of way. He will be fine its just the fact right now its a what if kind of thing. The not knowing is hard for adults so imagine for a kid.

no you were OK in everything you told him. he probably is just worried for his other baby as well

Sounds like a rough situation. The part that infuriates me is that it sounds like Gavin's mum is feeding his head with a big load a crap. Telling him he's not special any more blah blah blah. That behaviour needs to stop. Immediately. You certainly shouldn't have to buy him a toy every time you're getting essentials for the baby. That's ludicrous and creates a really really bad standard. You handled it well. I don't think you came across bitchy but I think this is something he needs to address with his exwife.

my aunt has two kids and there birthday is 21 and 22 of April she has a party for the oldest one the weekend before their birthdays and the youngest the weekend after . so it eventually works out so they can have their own party . and if I was you or your husband I would seriously have a talk to that lady jessica . She can get in trouble for feeding kids that kinda stuff since he is only 7

Oh if I tell Jessica how I feel or anything of that sort she tells me not to tell her how to raise her child. @phinnybinz

I figured as much. Your SO needs to be the one to talk to her. Or take her ass to court. That is 100000000% psychological abuse. And it sucks for the boy.

yes @phinnybinz exactly! furthermore he is 7 years old and though he is young... he still know better. kids are so smart these days and I don't want him to become a huge issue behaviorally when the new baby gets here and cause a huge strain on your relationship. Know what I mean? like taking full advantage of the fact that he knows y'all already feel bad for him and a Lil guilty and going completely left with it. If y'all can't sit down with the ex wife as a family and let her know that her behavior is totally uncalled for and unacceptable then y'all need to sit him down and have a SERIOUS conversation letting him know that you understand How he feels but that it's not okay to act out when he feels like he's not getting enough attention.

@zyandi, THIS!

When I say that she is immature she is extremely immature. She just got put in jail not to long ago for beating her sister with a pan and got charged with assault with a deadly weapon.

Oh and she did it outside her sons bedroom door let me add that in there. When her and my husband was married she always came home drunk at night, on a school night, and tried to start fights and yell and scream while her child was asleep in the next room. If he wanted to go out with his friends she would get super pissed because she told him he needed to be home with his family.... Contradicting huh? When he left her after all her chaos she asked to meet up in a walmart parking lot to discuss things and want to possibly work things out, well when things didn't go the way she wanted. She got someone to strangle her, she used her seat belt and wrapped it around her throat to choke herself. She used god knows what object to beat herself to leave black and blue marks on her, after doing all of these things she called the cops and said that my husband had beat her. The cops came to HIS house not their house and arrested him. He got put in jail and charged with assault on a female. She took their child to DSS an told him as a 5 year old to say all the things she wanted him to say that daddy hit mommy and he saw it etc. SO after that was filed as well she filed a restraining order against him and then had it to where he couldn't see his child alone. CPS came and sat in on my husbands and his sons weekends together for 4 weekends (he gets him every other weekend). Then after that was up and over he couldn't take his child anywhere even to ride bikes up and down the road unless my MIL was there. Lets fast forward......When they separated he GAVE HER a car to drive to take their son to daycare and school and in-case of an emergency....well she wrecks the car and totals it because she is texting and driving keep in mind she has refused in the 7 years of them being together to get a job... so the car had to stay in his name on the title and the insurance in his name so she could even drive the thing. A year later my husband gets a letter in the mail saying that if he does not pay the DMW $3,000 by the next month that his license will be taken for a year. SO he messages her and asked her why he got the letter and she says that the same letter had came 6 MONTHS earlier to their old address she just didn't feel the need to give it to him because he deserved to loose his licenses for a year... So after a change of address form was filled out he got that final notice. She also did the same thing with a letter from the county giving him a chance to show up to court to get the restraining order dropped early so he can be alone with his child and take him places without my MIL being there but she failed to give my MIL that piece of mail but would give her everything else. Fast forward a little further... he meets me..... She gets pissed when she finds out... she goes on a porn site on her phone and takes screen shots of girls vags crops out the vag goes to my facebook gets pictures of me off my facebook and then proceeds to make a collage of me and vags and puts it all over social media saying that it was my vag that i am cheating on my at the time boyfriend sending those pictures out, calling me a whore etc. THEN she gets a pinger number (a fake number) and starts messaging me calling me a homewrecker a whore etc. An then one day calls me and tells me that when me and Matt get married she wants to come to the wedding to see her little boy in the wedding. UM NO im sorry after everything you have done? NO! so now i am pregnant and she is doing saying all of this stuff to their son about how he will not be special anymore and daddy wont love him anymore and so fourth. All i can think is when will this end? @phinnybinz @preggersblues @reeney

sadly going through the same crap over here 😣

and I don't see it getting any better for us. she's so immature and all the crap she pulls it's just a mess I don't see how any mom would wanna hurt their babies that way.. and he's so excited that there's a baby coming and I really don't believe she'll allow him to meet her

That is too much drama. First of all, she needs professional help. Second of all he needs to fix his address with the courts (should have happened ages ago so he wasn't depending on her to important information). Thirdly, I'd just leave her out of the equation when it comes to the little boy. It will be a long rough road. He's got to be retrained to understand that you guys have not put him on the back burner but acting out won't be tolerated. And just do not acknowledge anything he says about her AT ALL. Literally ignore when he says "mummy said _____" - or say "Ok, that's nice." And move on. That way you're not bad mouthing her and you're showing him that her words are hers and mean nothing to you and your relationship with him.

We don't say anything about her though. Even if he says I have this at my mommies and I'm like oh that's cool buddy. @phinnybinz