Exactly. I'm glad she has someone like you. Even if you aren't very close (geographically). But I would just have her talk to her dr and see if they have any resources or at least know where she can go to get resources.

You're exactly right @brianneofwonderland life happens, no judgement here. 🙅 that's why I'm trying to be as supportive as I can even though I don't live in the same city as her to help guide her to make good decisions because she doesn't really have anyone else outside of her family (which I don't even know if she's told yet) plus I know it's not an ideal situation to be in because ppl do judge unfortunately, but I just hope she feels the love from me & my family and ultimately the child is loved too because life is life that's the miracle.. How it comes about is irrelevant really.

@herra, Ikr?! 🙌

Letting him ***

Well I would think that letting me involved doesn't necessarily mean they have to exchange info like that. Have her talk to her dr about privacy issues and they may have some resources for her. If she would like him to be involved that is. I know where she's coming from. My 2 year old is a product of a one night stand and the man she calls daddy is a completely different person. Life happens.

@boymomplusagirl, that's a relief. Yeah, your situation sounds real similar to hers. I just really hope she doesn't let him mind F her into thinking he really cares. Because he doesn't. He literally wanted to know the Dr's appointment date and said nothing more and nothing less. I really wish she wouldn't have even told him that. 🙄😒 but I know it hurt her when he seemingly had an interest in her and the baby and then went MIA so I'm hoping she'll keep a hold on that feeling and knows he's full of it.

i totally understand ide be the same way....now you just gotta get her to tell him that shes not pregnant so she can live in peace lol.....

Thank you!! That's exactly what I'm thinking too! She doesn't KNOW this dude. We all make mistakes, I get it, but to make some kind of domestic arrangement because of the way things happened is no excuse to put yourself & your unborn child in possible danger is NOT worth it. I really hope he texts something to her that sets off an "a-ha!" Moment in her head that has her get him off of her ass regarding the baby. I want nothing but peace & love for her and the baby. @heera

The doctors cannot release any information without her consent. I am kind of in a similar situation, and my daughters father wants nothing to do with her now, but he wanted the abortion, and she wasn't planned at all. I refused the abortion and he showed interest for about a minute and then disappeared. I have heard from him one time since finding out. He doesn't know what doctors I use, or where my daughter will be born, or when she will be born. I would not let them release info even if he found out.

JUST bcuz hes being an ASSHOLE ide just say its not his or I'm not pregnant but i THOUGHT I was or something. sounds like itd be a long road ahead of her if she doesnt think fast.....

@amberr_0302, @eskawho That's exactly what I told her too! Because I have a feeling he'll be the type to borderline stalk and try to get information about her & the baby through the doctor since they're not even really speaking on a personal basis right now.

See, that's the first thing I thought too!! I mean, she obviously doesn't really know this guy if she thought he may have been cool with the fact she's pregnant.... If I were in the situation, I definitely would've lied and acted like I did not know who the baby's father was. She'll be just fine by herself raising the baby. I fear he'll have her f'd up though if he tries to "be a part of their lives" @mommaisrael2017

I was asked if it was ok for info to be released to my husband...they will or should not release any info to him without her permission.

all she has to do if he wants to be involved is to tell her doctor that she doesnt want to let him know any information. i still get asked by my doctor if its okay for them to release information to my boyfriend .

Have her tell him it's not his! If he isn't going to b a positive impact on her or the baby, he doesn't need to be in their lives. She can tell him she was hooking up with someone else too.