ADVICE PLEASE.. so i think i'm going to have problems with my in laws later on... my sister in law had a baby. her daughters a month older than my son. she's 3 months and they give her a whole lollipop to have like she holds it not just a taste, they give her watermelon and i think they let her nibble on a chicken drumstick. i myself think this isn't good for her at all. maybe the sucker she could have a taste. but not let her eat the whole thing. that's her baby so whatever if she's comfortable with it by all means. i am going back to work in 2 weeks. i know once i leave they will do what they please with my son. makes me sorta feel awkward bc i live at their house. we are saving up for a home.. so i know if they do this to my son i will not be okay with it and i don't feel like they will be okay with me saying no even tho it's my son. not theirs. i just want to have my wishes respected but i know if i say something it'll cause drama... what should i do? is it okay for babies to have these things when they aren't even eating solids yet? i mean she is still only on formula. i am a ftm so i don't know if im being dramatic or if im in my right to think this.. help.
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I get it. The whole holding and kissing situation happened to me too. Everyone knows I'm a strict mom now, and that hands NEED to be washed to even hold him, and no kissing on the face. My fiancés grandma took care of him for like a hr while I went to get him some formula, and when I got back she was gone to her friends house that lives a block away, but speculation is that her friends husband molested my fiancés aunt, so I IMMEDIATELY called my fiancé and told him she had taken him over there, and he IMMEDIATELY called her to bring my son right back. She was angry for a couple of days and didn't hold my son, but eventually she got the point. My son my rules.
I live with my mother in law and my fiancés grandma.
@mombie2be, my dilemma is that I have had a thing before... I told my fiancé to tell them I'm not comfortable with people I don't know holding my son. and if they might possibly even kiss him. just bc they aren't strangers to my mother in law that doesn't mean they aren't strangers to me. they don't even know my name and I'm not comfortable with certain people I don't know holding him. that was a weird problem for a bit but we talked it out and things got cleared up. and I just feel that if I bring this up again... I'm gonna be the super "strict mom" to them. and they really will say it's not bad for the baby... and I will have to feel like they might think I'm crazy. (old school Mexican parents here) mil doesn't even speak English a lot. she mostly speaks Spanish. and I'm not fluent. so there's that language barrier. I just don't wanna feel more awkward living here then I do occasionally bc of how I want my son raised.
My mother in law was sitting in the back seat with my son, and he was crying, so she took it upon herself to give him some Starbucks (caramel frap.) When we got home I kissed my son and smelled coffee and caramel on him. I confronted her and she had the audacity to lie to me, so I told her straight up that was not about to happen EVER again.
My son is almost 5 months and not allowed to have any of that. Shit. I don't even want him sucking on lollipops until he's waaayyyyy older. Like 4 or something. And only as a treat. I always have to be reminded that I'm the mother. And I make the rules. Have a talk with your fiancé and let him understand why it's not good. Then both of you take it up to your in laws and let them know by opening their eyes on why that's not good for a baby. Even though they are taking care of your baby while your making your daily bread doesn't mean they are raising him with their customs. Put your foot down, and let them know.
I wouldnt trust them with my baby. I'd be to scared that all that stuff would mess up her stomach or cause her to have a stomach ache. I'd tell them that you don't want your son having anything other than formula/breast milk. If they do then I'd find a baby sitter or a different family member to watch your son. @mamaash
@babynessa, yes this is my dilemma I'm like my sons way too young and I know they are going to try to do the exact same thing with mine. like they do to his sisters baby.
My baby is almost 3 months and I'd never let her have a lollipop or chicken. I wouldn't even let her suck or nipple on either one. Babies don't need anything other than formula/breast milk until 6 months technically. Some moms start earlier with baby cereals at 4 months. It would be hard to trust them if it was my baby and they were watching her.
Dang it would be hard for me to trust them but i would def tell them my rules. If i see theyre doing whatever they want id get out of there lol
And also "strict" quote on quote because I don't think I'm being strict. It's just who I am as a mother. I'm a clean freak and a germaphobe to a certain extent. Just remember that the more you watch out for your children the less bacteria they will be exposed to, and the less junk food they are introduced to the less they will tantrum to wanting it when they are older. I don't think that being exposed to eating dirt or never washing hands is good because it adapts the body to germs, so you'll never get sick. I've read horror stories about that.