@jessicagarmal, far from alone dear. *hugs*

You're not alone ❤️

i Appreciate the support loves... I've been having bad anxiety about this for days... none of my family gets along and they are throwing this pregnancy in the middle of their petty selves... i had a stillborn last year so the past 18 months have been hell.. i just want time to cry with my husband after our son its born.. no pictures, no visitors, just me husband and baby to exist... i was on bedrest for 14 weeks due to short cervix where we almost lost this baby too and i just feel like wet deserve this... i ask so glad I'm not alone... when truely i felt so so alone...@sarinunez, @marissarose94 @madibug96 @peaceinfall @missliss

I'm not telling anyone but the godmother and I don't feel bad about it. I don't want anyone invading my space and my first few hours with baby and hubby.

I'm not telling any of them for that reason. I got so sick and tired of his mother and grandmother trying to bully their way into things that I decided no one will know till we are out of the hospital. The last thing I want to worry about is them when I'm going to have newborn and need to focus on my recovery and my family.

they'll get mad, and if they don't get over it then she doesn't have you're best interests at heart and I couldn't trust someone like that. even if it was my mother.

I feel like they will hold grudges, but I wish I would have told people to visit me at home because I was exhausted and frustrated that my milk didn't come in. My mother in law and her friend came in the room and that pissed me off but I was so tired I didn't want to fight.

do they get over it, or will they always begrudge you for it? @peaceinfall

Do it with no regrets, I wish I'd follow my plan of telling people to give me space.

the problem there is my mom will most likely tell social media before I do and that CANT happen... we havnt told my husbands family of the pregnancy yet because his mom has had some health issues and they are brought on more by stress and her mother is in the hospital.. my pregnancy was high risk.and. i spent 14 weeks on bedrest for short cervix so it would have been really bad for her health if she knew of the pregnancy so we were just going.to tell them gently.after he is.here (we spoke to his sister about it who is a doctor and she agreed it would be best for his moms health... like she will stop eating due.to stress).. my mom has put on facebook twice now.about my.pregnsncy and. i have to race and talk go others about deleting the post or comment and she gets offended.... so i cant trust her at all... i think itll just be husbamd amd i for a while, then tell his family, .THEN her and the family and facebook... hate having to be so gusrded with this.. i wish they would just respect us, but everything revolves around them.. :(...@madibug96,

@jessicagarmal, I'm so sorry, I can totally understand why you would be stressed. But trust me love, once you go into labor you won't give a shit. If you're still worried, I would talk to a nurse beforehand and ask her to tell anyone who arrives at that hospital that they have to leave. Most nurses will do that for you because they don't have to live with those people. Then you can blame it on the hospital. This is YOUR child, not theirs. Lean on those who are supportive and are there for you. Sounds like they only care about themselves. That's not something you want to have to focus on, and it's unfair that they expect that

i agree.. this anxiety isnt.heloing anything... i actualky didnt answer anyones phone calls today and i might not tomorrow either... ill text them "everythings fine, no baby yet" and they leave me alone.. but im over them butting themselves in... my aunt gave us a crib amd things which i really appreciate, but if the stipulation was she had to be involved in every aspect of.this.pregnancy i.would have respectfully declined... i hate that they think support is.only what they want to offer, not what unnecessarily i need... and when i needed them most they werent there.. and u dont want them there now... i just hate the fucking guilt trip they send.me on like my aunt said "oh i know you wouldnt keep secrets from me about going to the hospital ".. uhh what!?!?! your not my mom, im not a child, im 28 years old married to my husband of 5.5years.. i dont need this babying.shit... i hate this..n i would rsther have my sin in a closet than them in the room... :( @zyandi

I didn't tell anyone but my mom and whoever she told kept it real quiet for 2 days after I had our son so I could release it on my own. the only thing I would do us text them all before you release it on social media. they need to let you have time with your new baby and it's totally fine if you don't allow them over or to hold the baby. no one but me, my husband, 2 sisters and my mother have held my son.

I literally was just sitting here contemplating the same thing. they just gone have to get over it cause we don't need the extra stress. Positive vibes only

I only told my baby's father and my mother was already with me. I was upset that my mom told my aunt and she showed up... I would just wait until after when you are ready for visitors. They will get over it!!!

I wish i had a supportive mother... but between her, my dad, aunt, grand parents I'm overwhelmed... everyone wants a phone call and when i said "maybe after r hey to the hospital to get settled and figure out whats going on them we might let people know",. they were irate... they want to know the second we go to the hospital as if they get some damn medal for being there first... i don't feel they give a damn about me.. they just want to get their own warm and fuzzies with a new baby... i.hate it.. i really do.. I'm stressed out always because idk how to handle this because they will all hold grudges... i wish they fucking cared amd loved me.. having a rough night.. 😢 @missliss

More than ok! You focus on you and your husband and that baby. The only person we are going to notify when I go into labor is my mom because I want her and my husband both in the room with me. They will get over it!