he's freaking out about me filing child support on his ass. wtf

Most men do. My ex husband cried 😑 literally

maybe try to work something out with him first, like $50-$100 a week or something, or have him buy everything the baby needs each week. but if he doesn't agree then I say do child support.

@babes101116, wow.. so how does this work they will contact both me and him now?

@kelseys, the thing is I don't believe him when he says he will .. he claimed her for his tax return and he sucks at saving

As long as he has a job that pays a paycheck and not cash under the table, they will be able to look up how much he makes and there's a formula that they will use to figure out how much you get every month. Don't ask me what the formula is because my ex found a way not to use it.

@babes101116, yes he is a cook. and how long did it take after you submit the application? they contact both me and him and then figure it out

I was going through an actual divorce so the whole process took me 6 months start to finish, so I'm not sure, sorry. Our lawyers handled all of it. They'll be able to tell you more when you go file the paperwork

If he's not going to be there for you or the baby then he should get the hell over it. Be a man, not a little boy. But yes, they will send you both papers of when you'll go to court for ir

i wouldn't try to figure what he can afford fuck that... there was a time when I was gonna get my husband for child support and when he found out how much they were taking he literally beg not to..

You guys can agree to some sort of income then he does it for a while and bails on it I rather go to court

@lovebuggg2016, court?! is it for a hearing or just to turn in paperwork....

Make sure u state in ur court order that 1 year u will claim ur daughter and the next year he will otherwise he can claim her every year and dosent have to give u a dime @mommytomia_

what happens if he refuses to go to court .. @meli2890 @lovebuggg2016

@babes101116, do we need lawyers

No not for just child support

@mommytomia_ it's free to file the paperwork just ask for a fee waiver and they will have him laying next month and back most to you

And back pay to you **

@breebunny, okay and I do this all after I receive the letter in the mail right I filed online today

Yes or they will call you

@mommytomia_

no you don't need to go to court just if it becomes a bigger situation... just file paperwork

@meli2890, oh okay I was gonna say!!!

he can refuse to go to court, but he will still have to pay.. if he doesn't go to court it looks bad on him and will go more in your favor. I agree on the switching tax returns every year cause when you do go to work you will get a decent amount back when you claim her.. @mommytomia_

@brwneydgirly25, okay so this past year he claimed her so for 2016, I should claim herrr ?

you can choose to put whatever you want in the parenting plan @mommytomia_ they should have someone at the department of child support to help you with any questions you have.. I would.. are you going to be working at all this year otherwise if you have no income you can't file a tax return

@brwneydgirly25, yes army reserves

I mean, you might not even have to but usually with child support they want to do visitation or they tend too. If he makes a big deal about it and won't agree to an amount which usually your lawyer will set, you would have to go to court for a hearing