well its hard to say. I do as much as possible for my step daughter. her mother has no rules and teaches her nothing. obviously since she is an only child she gets away with not picking up for herself and things like that. but when I have my child there will be rules to follow because my child will have rules. if she follows them great if not than that's on her father. I think he can raise her how he feels. I will only suggest things or have input. I guess I follow the ' you reap what you sow. if she is an uncontrolable teen or irresponsible adult its not on me BC I more than likely suggested or had imput on things and if he doesn't want to listen, well whatever. but I will not deal with the consequences of your way of raising a child. if my child asks why his daughter doesn't have to follow my rules I will simply say that I am your parent, I know what is best for you your dad and I agree on the rules for you. and her mother and your father follow their own rules for her.

How old were they? At my mom's, we had strict rules & at my dad's, it was super relaxed & we could (pretty much) do what we wanted. But we knew the boundaries. My mom even said "I can't punish you for what you do there but I can here. & if you do that here, you will be punished." And don't get me wrong my dad wouldn't let us do outrageous things. More like watch certain tv shows or play certain video games or curse, things my mother wouldn't approve of because of her religious beliefs. But we knew where to draw the line. @jjmom12345678

It didn't work out very well cause when my step children came to our house they had rules and at their mothers they had nothing

@brit1335, yes I agree with that too

My ex step father used to beat me too. He would lie to my mom about things. There was a time we got smacked in the face for putting the sugar in the kool-aid before the water. That was not discipline, that was straight up abuse. But anyways, I'm not talking about abusive stepparents. But a man or woman who works hard to provide for you and love you and make sure you have what you need deserves that respect. As long as they're disciplining you the same way, the biological parents do, I don't see a problem with it at all. @taea98

@jjmom12345678, how'd that work out for you?

@brit1335, that's how I feel

I went through this with my step children

@brit1335, not if he had no job and provided nothing 😂😂

@brianneofwonderland, lol

@taea98, sorry to hear that

What a good way to let your child walk all over their step-parent.🙄 This "You're not my real mom/dad" thing is bs. Are they providing your food? A place for you to live? Then they have every right to discipline you. Smh.

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I agree. As long as mother is okay with step mother etc. my step mom should have beat my ass any times and she didn't marry my dad till I was 14. Lmao.

My step dad use to beat me with his belt ... Not even my own mom would. I don't think it's right. I hit him right back he didn't treat me right so