@sandee_gianna805, tough love is what I'm giving him. hopefully it works If not then I don't think we would even see each other or speak ever again.

@anayeli, a little late but better late than never and idk but thats something you guys should think about if he doesnt want to learn this way well then make him learn the hard way

@sandee_gianna805, I'm glad that you're brother turned his life around for the better buy hitting rock bottom is the realist life can get for someone. @damandakillion I'm not like my brother at all. I'm the successful kid who went to college, got a degree, got married and had kids. I am no better than anyone but I sure as hell know that what he is doing is no way of living.

Well, I am proud of you for not ending up in the same life. Also, for seeing that it really is no life at all! You're a great person for putting those girls first! You'll do great in life.

@damandakillion, my mom is too soft to keep him away from her home. the home is owned by my step dad and I think I'm going to have him set up an order of restriction so this doesn't happen again. it sounds mean but my brother nor the city is going to pay for broken property and its not like he can sue my brother. he's got nothing. its just a damn shame this happened. I know the family will hate me for a while but I gotta protect my sisters who can't protect themselves since my mom can't be an adult right now.

this is how my older brother was except we never got the swat maybe cops but anyways he was bad he was a thief druggie you name he was in and out out of prison until the court got tired and he was deported to tijuana we helped him we used to send him money but he was still in the same crap until my parents decided to stop sending him money and for a whole year he struggled he used to tell us he used to like under the bridge idk if youve ever seen it but theres a bunch of homeless people there and thats where they shower he was asking for food sometimes he would do something stupid just so he would get locked up cause he used to hate being in the streets until he finally hit rock bottom and now hes one changed man finally married even thou hes 36..he has a good wife a house a great job and he loves it thats something he never had here point to this story is you guys have to let your brother hit rock bottom and learn how life is the hard way

don't even stress over him, because at the end of the day no matter what you say or do, he won't change until he's ready to change. that's so sad for your sister(maybe talk to her and let her know she's more important than that bs). the more they have people there for them, they're just going to keep doing it because everyone is showing them its okay to live that way.

Wow! You go girl! Don't help him anymore! He should feel some kind of guilt for putting his parents and his sisters through that. And if he doesn't, then we'll he is truly a lost cause. What do your parents do? Why don't they have a handle on their own home?

@kelseys, you're right. family isn't always blood and he sure as hell doesn't give a fuck about blood family. he is all about his gang family and will protect them over us any day. I'm done with him. my babies come first. what angers me the most is that the same day my parents home was raided my sister graduated middle school with honors and a scholarship and her day was overshadowed with his bs. thank you for the feedback ladies.

Well said you have a right to be mad I know I would be

I dated someone exactly like your brother @anayeli if you keep helping you're just putting it in their head that no matter what pain they cause and bad they do that its okay and you'll always be there that's precisely why you have to let him face his demons on his own and if that doesn't work nothing will talking doesn't work with these kind of people my "boyfriend" wouldn't even change for his own child it's hard to come to terms with I know but you gotta test the water before going for a swim! I hope things work in your favor and he's sees who he's hurting and how he's doing so best of luck ! You'll be in my prayers!

agree! it hurts but sometimes it needs to be said. he's a grown man that makes his own choices, nobody made him do it. My brother is 24, locked up all because he was in the streets. I have no contact with him because the safety of my children come.before him and what he does, I won't be involved in it. Family are those who are loyal to you, not blood, so its okay if you need to let him go. its not your place to protect him, so don't feel bad, but maybe talk with your parents too because its their house, and they shouldn't put up with that.

I love my brother to death but I feel like me helping him does no good for him. my family is probably going to hate me for a while especially my mom but I feel like I just can't do anything for him. maybe you're right @kennedy96 maybe just maybe he'll fix his issues on his own and change. if not oh well.. I made my life, have a family of my own he is no longer my priority or problem.

Completely agree let him live out his decisions on his own he'll come to terms with his demons hopefully