If my boy wants a cuddle he'll get a cuddle. Whether it's to watch tv or go to sleep. Whatever makes him happy! & if that means I'm spooling him and always have then I'm proud to say he's one spoilt child! x

Thankyou @tam77 that's how I feel. That's calebs only way of telling me he needs something or needs me! I never want him to feel abandoned. Each persons parenting is different obviously but I feel under pressure to get it right and it's hard so many options! Breast or bottle, co sleep or not, routine or too young. I'm starting to go with flow a bit more and feeling what is right with us, so I start a routine but isn't strict, I breastfeed and just listen to what he tells me. Thankyou xxx

this is number 4 for me and i cuddled all my babies whenever they needed!! ive never had them sleep in same bed and put them down when asleep but i dont agree a baby that is cuddled a lot is spoilt at all a baby likes to feel secure and loved and so as mum i see it as my job to make sure they feel both. xxx your doing great xxxx

Don't worry about going on lmao @beccastirlingx I appreciate your opinion. He didn't like to be put down and being harsher and putting him in bouncy chair when we eat and putting him down when he's asleep. I suppose if he's clean, full tummy, clean nappy, warm enough etc and his colic isn't bad then he really is fine to cry for 5 mins as long as he ain't making himself sick. He doesn't always take a dummy too little monkey! When he feels like it haha. And thanks @ashleigh91 it changes as soon as your home with that baby don't it, nobody else has to deal with the sleepless colicky nights as in my case. I value advice from family and friends etc but it's hard when everyone around me seems to tell me I'm doing it wrong lol xxx

I thought exactly the same wen I was pregnant with my daughter 5 years ago I told her dad she's not to be picked up all the time wen she's born etc but once she was here it all changed,, it was me that made a big fuss over her n picked her up a lot I rocked her to sleep and she slept in my bed and now wen I was pregnant with my son I new what I'd be like he hasn't really slept in my bed as of yet but if it happens it happens but he gets rocked to sleep 2 if he's fighting it n he's 4 weeks old lol xx

@emorleyx, I do abit of both! There is no right or wrong! I'm starting to be a little more harsh now tho because he's beginning to fight his sleep unless he is cuddled on the couch or in bed with me. So when I see he's getting sleepy I put him in his crib with his dummy and put his mobile on, if he cries I pop my head in, say shhh and put his dummy in, then if he cries again, I'll wait 5 mins before doing that again. But other times when I'm exhausted or just want a cuddle, he'll sleep with me! I co-sleep every now and then and I love it! Do what you feel is best and what is easiest for you. It's all about perseverance and being persistent especially if your trying to get him into a routine, sorry for going on abit Hun 😹xxx