Ok so my friends baby is turning one this weekend and I'm going to the party. She was kinda friends with my ex-fiancé so my fiancé asked me to make sure he isn't going. I messaged her "hey Hun. (Last name) isn't going to the party, right?" And my fiancé got mad! He said using my exs last name made it sound like I'm friends with my ex. WTF. My exs name is Ryan and my friend and I know about 20 Ryan's. So I used his last name to be specific. I asked for him and now he's bitching and getting mad at me for the way I asked. I can never fucking win. Everything I do is wrong with him!!!! I'm so annoyed
@mamesey, I was combative and asked if he was so worried about ex why didn't he just go be with him. Huge blow up more so because I laughed at his anger, so that approach handling him with "kid gloves" worked and now I rarely hear about my ex.
Ugh I hope that works for me eventually! I've done that too but he just doesn't care :( hopefully he will one day. This is getting old @surprise4
@mamesey, I know the feeling, explaining that there's a reason your ex and you aren't together worked for me thousands of times and that we are a family and ex isn't even a factor thousands of times. Finally got through to him
Yup. I wasn't gonna ask because I was sure she wouldn't invite him if I'm going. But he told me to ask. And then complained about how I did it... Thank you! @momma1108
He's the one that wanted you to ask then got mad at how you asked? He needs a chill pill. I prolly woulda used his last name too.
@jennatess, thanks Hun! Yeah it's super common. Didn't think I was doing anything wrong
@mamesey, you are welcome, don't let it drive you insane.