I need ADVICE!!! 😳😭 My son's dad who hasn't been around at all or even spoken to me since he has been born just…

Thanks @mybabyloves

Good luck

I hope he does come around for him. @mybabyloves

well that's not cool then

I completely understand that but when I was about to add him I went through his and saw so many things that I felt like he was making fun of my son. @mybabyloves

he was very abusive to me and he is on meds now so there's no way that I was taking the chance

I understand that but I'm just saying I would much rather be able to tell my kids that I tried the best I could to let their dad be a part of their lives. time really does change someone's mind maybe he seen how beautiful your son is and he does want to be a part of his life now I'm not saying you should be with him I'm just saying I think you should at least give him a chance. that's one reason that I did not file for child support with my first two because if I did they were ordering me to give him partial custody and for him to have them every weekend and I know personally that he is not a good enough parent to have them alone

I would love for him to be around but I'm not forcing him either. I tried at the beginning but didn't want to & now his here & still nothing until I did that. @mybabyloves

okay whatever makes you feel better some people do have a change of heart

Umm he wanted me to abort him. He made fake accounts to see if i did or what I was doing. He knew my due date but didn't bother. He has seen pics of him and he only contacted me because of child support. @mybabyloves

if he's a good guy and you're on purposely not letting him be a part of his son's life and then I personally think that's pretty messed up, I would at least give him the chance to be a part of his son's life even if right now all he wants to do is look up pictures on Instagram. I tried to force my first two kids dad to be a part of their life for 3 years so at least I can say that I tried to let their dad be a part of your life. Your completely blocking him out and not letting him even try. It was different when he wasn't here yet or when he was first born but if he's making an effort now I think you should at least give him the chance and if it becomes negative then is the time you choose to not let him be a part of his life

See I really do want to! @meli2890

I would.. to see how good your doing without him and to see the baby making him realize what he's missing

Exactly! I feel like part is my fault why he denies him but now that his here they look identical. I also think he already got a notification @mamesey

@luuuuuucyyy, good :) you don't need negativity from him & complication

I didn't. @mamesey

Nope! I wouldn't

@luuuuuucyyy, oh I see

Your right but see I just fold child support on him so I don't know if that has something to do with it. @ashleyandadan

@luuuuuucyyy, if you accept it and he starts telling you negative things you can always go and block him.

I know he's been looking at my sisters things but she blocked him not to long ago lol

We have mutual friends as well so might have seen something. @savvylynn1

how stupid, I'd just let him just so he can see what he's missing. it will kill him to know you don't care enough to block him or anything lol

See I'm tempted to & then part me is like I know if he bothers to message me I won't tolerate it. I think he thinks I'm with someone because he has always denied my son. @savvylynn1

I would just so he can snoop and see what he's missing

I'm not going to! I just went in though on Monday. It's that fast? @mimi602

I won't. @harleyann

It's ok @ehq

He only tryna add you because you filed child support on him. girl I know these tricks already smh sadly

Oh then I definitely wouldn't if you're filing for child support. He might be trying to contact you to drop it or possibly look for negative things about you to bring up.

It's going to bug me now lol Why does he do this out of nowhere? Exactly what he did last time! @mimi602

He only tryna add you cuz you filed child support on him

Of my son @ehq

No lol don't do it girl.I remember we was talking bout this few days ago. Let the courts deal with him girl

I just filed child support on him. I have him blocked on Facebook so he can't see my son's pictures & we no longer have one another's number. I've also have told those who have asked for my number to give to him not to. @harleyann @ehq

I wouldn't. Seems like a way for him to check up on his son without actually being involved. If he wants to see his son then he should grow a pair and message you like an adult.