Some nights I just lay in bed and ask my self, why are me and my SO still together? Its like he is not physically…

Im not happy either. the decisions get hard after kids.

Rosa that is so true

Hahahahaha I know. I cry thinking about it too. And I'm young. And I'm not saying that to brag. I am saying that in the sense of "I know where you are and how you are feeling". I was there once upon a time. And I would have loved it if someone was there to tell me to leave and get to know myself. Don't think for a second you don't have a choice. Don't think for a second you don't have a way out. It isn't worth it. I developed anxiety from my husband and I arguing so much. I would have panic attacks almost. And trust me you can ask him yourself. We been to hell and back. But we BOTH gave our selves the time we needed to learn how to breathe again. We are adults now. We don't need to ask permission. You only have one life. Learn to be happy for you. Not for him. My husband and I are in a better place because we have our own lives. And we have something to offer and share. You just need to think of one another but don't forget who you are as a person. ❤️ I'm always here if you need me :)

I know this is your post @lizabeth08 but that was so helpful @rosa353 wow thank you

@rosa353, girl, I forreal just shead a tear.

Oh girl I know!!!!! When they are all you have and then on top of that you have a child together. I know. But if you let it continue it will not get worse unless you get to make yourself happy. Trust me it isn't easy. I didn't want to leave. I cried cried begged and pleaded with my hard headed husband lol. Trying to get him to show me he loved me. To get something that was real. It always felt like he was there physically but mentally he was checked out. I know. But. You as your child's mom need to smile. And genuinely smile because your happy. I had our daughter. I had post partum and my relationship with my husband was going down the drain and it wasn't helping. It got to the point where I didn't want nothing to do with my daughter. And that wasn't fair to her or to me. Or to him. You have to do something different in order for it to change. Or it's never going to work and your gonna waste your life away with something that could have been. It's hard at first. I am not going to tell you it's easy. But it's going to get better. You just have to go through the hard stuff first. I'm not saying leave him. I'm saying look at you in the mirror and smile and ask yourself is this a real smile ? And give your self the chance to find what a real smile actually looks like.

@rosa353, separating has been put out on the table a few times, I just don't know that I would be able to deal honestly. I didn't realize how bad things were untill I had my LO and my SO became the only person I had.

My husband and I were there once upon a time. We weren't happy with each other. Always arguing and just miserable. One day I couldn't take it anymore so I left him. Not saying you should do this. But the saying "distance makes the heart grow fonder" I was gone for three months. First month we wouldn't talk. The second month we started here and there. He would ask about me and our daughter. Ask for pictures of her. Asked if I needed anything. I would always say no. Then third month we resolved our issues and we are so happy. The distance was the time we needed to get to know ourselves again and to remember the reasons why we love each other to begin with. And now we welcomed our second baby. It's not for everyone. But give it a try. Get space. Breathe. Nothing is worse than being in a place you don't feel wanted.