You don't have to have him there at all. With my first born I was in a very similar situation and I chose to not have him there. I was nervous and scared enough with it being my first time giving birth and I definitely wasn't going to have any unnecessary drama on top of that. I did call him after I got home from the hospital to let him know I had the baby.

You don't have to have him in the room, at all.

@mommytoprincessmckenzie, I don't want him there to sign the birth certificate for anything. not only the disrespect but he's a dope dealer and very abusive

That's how I feel, I don't want my BD involved at all. Just cause of the choices he makes, and everything be has done.

@sassymom619 maybe have him come closer to the end of it? or if he starts being disrespectful the nurses will ask him to wait in the waiting room or leave. You have all the choices during delivery. With my son we have to tell them certain people that aren't allowed there so they'll keep them away.

You don't have to have anyone in the room that you don't want but he can still come to the hospital

@mamabearto2cubs,

I don't want the drama or bs when I'm giving birth ... he's such an asshole and this will be my first labor ... I'd rather not chance it but I don't want to be a bitch either

If he's disrespectful then you're not wrong to keep him from being there when you give birth, but keeping him out of the child's life is different.

him seeing his child born might be the push he needs to change.