ok so please tell me if im just being a pregnant bitch. ok so I have not been able to make it to any of my nieces recitals due to work in the past. She has another one tomorrow and I can go bc we only do half days at my job Im at now. my sister calls me last night and says she talked to her therapist and she said my dad should be allowed to go. my father is bipolar and yes he is on his meds but he has been many a times before. my husband sons and I will not have any kind of relationship w him. he has been to all of her recitals. why cant we have this one? my husband and my father hate eachother and we agreed as a family he will not have a relationship with our children. but now my niece is so upset at me bc we arnt going. she doesnt understand and I look like the bad guy.... im so upset....
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it's not simple. not at all. hes only coming bc its a public event. as in she cant say he cant be there. but im not giving him any satisfaction. plus im 38 weeks pregnant. 2 years ago the last thing he said to my face is loose weight he wouldnt have any fat fucks in his family.
If you allow this to determine the events you go to, you will find you no longer have a family, cuz while I totally understand and agree with you, they are also allowed to choose to have a relationship with him, and if you don't go, you will find this is the first of many times you aren't included etc because they aren't going to want to feel like they have to choose. Go to the recital. Sit somewhere else, don't talk to him. It's simple
@jahnessagarcia, I dont want him to know what my child looks like. he doesnt get that right.
one thing I've learned is, you don't have to have a relationship with someone, but it shouldn't stop you from doing something just because that person is there. maybe sit somewhere else. I don't have a relationship with my "mom" but it won't stop me from going somewhere she might be at, I just ignore her and sit somewhere else.
You can always sit somewhere else. don't have to sit by him or anything.
side note. my father has been verbally and physically abusive when off his meds. been arrested multiple times and has damaged our property. let me just add that in there
I agree with @kingme07 go, sit somewhere else, ignore him completely if he tries to approach you. Adults refusing to attend events for the children in their lives because they don't want to be around each other only hurt the children in their lives. I would start learning to avoid him in these types of situations rather than avoiding the situation.