Ahh my BD keeps bugging me about giving our daughter his last name but I really don't want that he hasn't been there at all through my pregnancy I've spent all money on her getting ready for her arrival and my BD has spent all his money on his truck and truck parts. He got mad when I chose her name without his opinion so he says she has to have his last name. He works 4 hours away and would only come every weekend but he got a new gf in another state he's been flying every weekend to see her. Yet still haven't even bought her a box of diapers. End of story straight to the point. Would it be bad if I give my daughter my last name? Ps. None of his friends, gf nor family know he's gonna be a dad soon
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I have the same situation going on with my BD! He hates he name I have picked out & wanted me to give him his middle name and his last name. I told him no, I've already chosen the middle name & he will definitely have my last name considering you're not reliable. I don't want my son asking me 5 years from now why me & him have different last names and where did he get his last name.. So no you're definitely not in the wrong girl!
just because she doesn't carry his last night doesn't mean he's not the father. what if he wants it now then later on leaves without seeing her again. I honestly think she should have yours.
Fortunately I told my BD that my baby will have my last name and he agreed.
That's exactly what my son went thru.
your own last name. no if's and's or but's
@mari_contreras, Yea I don't wanna go through that issue specially since he's choosing everything else over her rn
Your baby should have your last name since you are the sole provider. End of story.
@acrdrgz, oh it sure will be easier now that I think about it a lot I go to mexico a lot and I know they will make a big deal if I take her all the time and I have a Hispanic last name and her dad has a white last name so they'll probably make a big deal also with school and stuff
@kandice_stedman86, yea I probably most likely won't give her his last name I don't wanna have the issue where he disappears and wonders why her last name is not like everyone else in my family
My husband barely talks to his dad and has his last name his dad was never around and his dad chose and still chooses his gf over him even when she's wrong, so if I were you I would put my own last name the baby deserves your last name because your working hard for your baby not him. @wscst4
@mommytoprincessmckenzie, oh that's right yea I guess if he really wanted to step up he would do anything to claim her
@harleyquinn420 first of all congrats on moving on and meeting someone after you had a baby you give me hope haha and yea my dad is the one helping me with everything he helped me chose my daughters name
Doesn't sound like he deserves to have her have his last name. plus if you're gonna be the one caring for her it'll eventually be a lot easier for you go have the same last name as your child (especially with school and all)
He hasn't earned that privilege of having a child born carry his last name, I wish I woulda given my oldest son my last name when he was born, bc he's now 9 and hasn't seen or heard from his dad in 4 years. Ridiculous!
But I would make him pay for the court in that case.
If you don't, all he can do is go to court, they'll make him prove paternity, and he gets to be on the birth certificate.
Guys are stupid yea he does the same and drinks a lot he literally spend 15k on his truck right when I told him I was pregnant and we needed to start saving up. I have to really think about the birth certificate I just don't want drama if I don't put him on her BC @mommytoprincessmckenzie
@wscst4, that's how I felt. I gave her my last name and my mom picked her name cuz my mom was the one who went to all my appts and was there when she was born. I told him if he stepped up and was an actual dad then we could talk about changing her last name. 4 years later and he's back in jail still doing the same immature bs he's always done and she now calls my husband daddy instead.
That is good to know I hadn't really thought about the birth certificate till just now I guess I really have to think this through @arivera64
nope baby would have my last name that's a privilege he hasn't earned
I know how you feel. My daughter is having my last name, and he won't be on the birth certificate whether he's at the hospital or not. Cause all he does is buy stuff for his new car and drink, and go fishing.
I'm thinking that if in the bright future he steps up and is devoted to her I might accept him changing her last name @harleyquinn420
If you do, be sure to file for custody. If he's on the certificate he can take her at any time and nobody can do anything about it unless there is a custody agreement in order. Just want you to be aware of that just in case.
I don't plan on putting him, unless he comes to the hospital when I'm in labor. I might second guess it @arivera64
My first daughter has my last name cuz my BD did the same crap!!!! If he ain't gonna step up then his child doesn't deserve the embarrassment of bearing his name. That's just my opinion.
Am I wrong for telling my Bd that because we not Married my baby don't have to have his last name? He really got mad and told me I was project n ignorant. Crazy part is I was thinking about giving my baby his middle and last name
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
Okay. So i just have a question for all you moms out there. ive called several places and I have gotten no answers. my child's father wants to change my daughters last name to his last name. I am now married and my daughter has my maiden name. if i let him chnage her last name to his will that give him more rights or leverage? i just dont wanna go through with it and then end up regreting it if he gets power over me. he pays child support but there is no visitation established. he only sees her ...
My boyfriend is so upset that I didn’t give our son his last name but I have 4 other kids that has my last name I didn’t want to make him the only one with a different last name. Is that selfish of me? Or should he just understand. We not married
@reynadecielo, @thompsonofficial @haiydensmomma thanks you ladies I'm most definitely giving her my last name