Ahh my BD keeps bugging me about giving our daughter his last name but I really don't want that he hasn't been there at…

No it's not wrong. Will he be on the birth certificate?

My first daughter has my last name cuz my BD did the same crap!!!! If he ain't gonna step up then his child doesn't deserve the embarrassment of bearing his name. That's just my opinion.

I don't plan on putting him, unless he comes to the hospital when I'm in labor. I might second guess it @arivera64

If you do, be sure to file for custody. If he's on the certificate he can take her at any time and nobody can do anything about it unless there is a custody agreement in order. Just want you to be aware of that just in case.

I'm thinking that if in the bright future he steps up and is devoted to her I might accept him changing her last name @harleyquinn420

I know how you feel. My daughter is having my last name, and he won't be on the birth certificate whether he's at the hospital or not. Cause all he does is buy stuff for his new car and drink, and go fishing.

nope baby would have my last name that's a privilege he hasn't earned

That is good to know I hadn't really thought about the birth certificate till just now I guess I really have to think this through @arivera64

@wscst4, that's how I felt. I gave her my last name and my mom picked her name cuz my mom was the one who went to all my appts and was there when she was born. I told him if he stepped up and was an actual dad then we could talk about changing her last name. 4 years later and he's back in jail still doing the same immature bs he's always done and she now calls my husband daddy instead.

Guys are stupid yea he does the same and drinks a lot he literally spend 15k on his truck right when I told him I was pregnant and we needed to start saving up. I have to really think about the birth certificate I just don't want drama if I don't put him on her BC @mommytoprincessmckenzie

You're right @mrshamilton830 and he hasn't

If you don't, all he can do is go to court, they'll make him prove paternity, and he gets to be on the birth certificate.

But I would make him pay for the court in that case.

He hasn't earned that privilege of having a child born carry his last name, I wish I woulda given my oldest son my last name when he was born, bc he's now 9 and hasn't seen or heard from his dad in 4 years. Ridiculous!

Doesn't sound like he deserves to have her have his last name. plus if you're gonna be the one caring for her it'll eventually be a lot easier for you go have the same last name as your child (especially with school and all)

@harleyquinn420 first of all congrats on moving on and meeting someone after you had a baby you give me hope haha and yea my dad is the one helping me with everything he helped me chose my daughters name

@mommytoprincessmckenzie, oh that's right yea I guess if he really wanted to step up he would do anything to claim her

My husband barely talks to his dad and has his last name his dad was never around and his dad chose and still chooses his gf over him even when she's wrong, so if I were you I would put my own last name the baby deserves your last name because your working hard for your baby not him. @wscst4

@kandice_stedman86, yea I probably most likely won't give her his last name I don't wanna have the issue where he disappears and wonders why her last name is not like everyone else in my family

@acrdrgz, oh it sure will be easier now that I think about it a lot I go to mexico a lot and I know they will make a big deal if I take her all the time and I have a Hispanic last name and her dad has a white last name so they'll probably make a big deal also with school and stuff

Your baby should have your last name since you are the sole provider. End of story.

@mari_contreras, Yea I don't wanna go through that issue specially since he's choosing everything else over her rn

@brenking, thank you 😊 yes you're right

your own last name. no if's and's or but's

@mv92, got it haha thank you

That's exactly what my son went thru.

Fortunately I told my BD that my baby will have my last name and he agreed.

just because she doesn't carry his last night doesn't mean he's not the father. what if he wants it now then later on leaves without seeing her again. I honestly think she should have yours.

give that baby your last name. fuck him

I have the same situation going on with my BD! He hates he name I have picked out & wanted me to give him his middle name and his last name. I told him no, I've already chosen the middle name & he will definitely have my last name considering you're not reliable. I don't want my son asking me 5 years from now why me & him have different last names and where did he get his last name.. So no you're definitely not in the wrong girl!

@reynadecielo, @thompsonofficial @haiydensmomma thanks you ladies I'm most definitely giving her my last name