@oklahoma.girl55, that's how mine is she thinks she doesn't do anything wrong an acts like she's innocent. She came at me one day an my fiancé pushed her against a wall an my dog got defensive against her. An she tried saying she wouldn't have hit me like bullshit you don't run full speed at someone pissed off cussing an not think you'd hit someone like sorry but no! She has a lot of problems an half the time if I even have an ounce of annoyance in my tone she flips her lip an gets pissy it's like seriously. I understand her meds fucked her up more but she just acts like she does no wrong..

yup my mom is bipolar as well she says stuff and forgets or acts as if she never says it. shes kicked me out about a million and 1 times including while i was pregnant and we were in the middle of trying to move so i was staying with her till my car got out of the shop and we could get our stuff moved but nope she just said get out all because she decided in the middle of the night she no longer liked my fiance and didnt think he deserved to be around me or his daughter when she was born. some things are forgivable but not all i havent spoken to her in 4 months so idk ive dealt with her stuff for 21 years and because i dont speak to her i dont get to see my dad so shes ruined that relationship for me to. sucks but she refuses to believe she has a problem she thinks how she acts is normal and its not. @ang20

@oklahoma.girl55, Yeahp like i love my mom an everything but with all the meds she's on for pain an her back I just I don't wanna leave her alone to long an her fall asleep while watching her. An my mom is bi polar so I have issues on that but I appreciate her help but she can be manipulative an crazy... An she can go from crazy bitch to normal again an it scares me. I can't tell you how many times she's told me to go to hell an called me a bitch.. But she's family so I always forgive cause she doesn't seem my niece an Ik she means well she just needs help

My MIL felt the need to come all the way to where we lived at the time "because she wanted to help me " obviously my thoughts were heck no ,I've got this ,hes my son etc. Well my son didnt come till about 2/3 days after they left 😂. It was epic they were there for a whole week and once they were gone he decided to make his arrival my husband was at work and my sister in law shared the apt with us i asked her to no tell her mother till i was almost going to have him 😂 she understood ,they stilk came a day later but i just wanted that time alone with ym husband and my son ,still she came to help but not with the baby i wouldnt let go lol she just cooked cleaned made sure i was comfortable i appreciated it ,but same thing goes for this baby i dont need the help as ive said i rather struggle from the start than get help and be completely clueless of what to do once they cant help ,i didnt even need the help with my son i find it harder now that hes 17 months old than when he was born for sure !

@oklahoma.girl55, oh hell no I totally get you now. If I would've know all this I would've said don't let her watch the baby. My MIL is well know for passing out and she has huge panic attacks where she faints and stops breathing I told my husband o didn't want the baby alone with his mom because she can have an episode and drop the baby. I just didn't feel like it was safe.

First of all I wouldn't let no one on drugs or alcohol be around my baby. I never said you were unappreciative. I understand not having a pill popping drunk watching my child. I knew it would be different but not like it was for me. I still had to do it. I know that. Again, I just agreed that I wish I had help because it was hard and still is a year later but we get through it every day.

yup fiance and i only plan on having one so i want to be involved as much as i can whenever i can no matter how tired i am i will get my break when my fiance gets off work at 3:30 thats the deal we made he would take care of her as soon as he got home and showered so thats fine with me it gives me from 4 to 10 to sleep shower whatever i need to do im not to worried about it honestly i havent been stressing about needing help at all @aubrey1126

ill tell her no im fine i got it thank you. id rather be exhausted than leave my baby with someone dopped up on pills and beer and mentally cant even take care of herself without have crazy break downs for no reason. i never said it would be easy but thats something you have to consider when becoming a parent the struggles you will face. @junesmommy15 and @ang20 right least someone can relate has nothing to do with not be appreciative of the help has to do with my comfort level with leaving my baby alone with someone if im not comfortable im not gonna do it.

I was the same way I didn't want no ones help and I honestly didn't need it my daughter only cried when she wanted to eat that was maybe one time a night but most nights she slept all night while I stayed up watching her sleep I went through deep depression after I had my daughter I stayed home alone just me and my baby girl and that's how I got through it. Everyone is different and most times for me because it was my first kid I just wanted everyone to shut up n leave me alone lol

@oklahoma.girl55, Ik how you feel we live with my parents an my moms small dogs piss on everything they even peed on my blankets a few times. An my mom takes pills an can fall asleep within seconds an wake up than pass out again an idw leave her alone to long an have something happen. An than she's like I can always come an get her so you can sleep like no there is a reason she's sleeping next to our bed for awhile so I can watch her. Like ya I understand the helping but I'd rather do most of it being a ftm an all.

Well don't take the help then. Hard to see how you won't if you're going to be living there anyway. I'm just saying it was hard for me.

@junesmommy15, if you read the comment i just tagged her in you will see why id prefer not having her help.

@andrew_nikolai2015 I agree. It's hard. I wish I had the help. I went through big time depression after having my baby.

i wouldnt mind the help if she didnt mix her pills with beer every time shes off work then she gets all weird and emotional and comes down to me crying over absolutely nothing and tells me "i figured i would come down and see if you could cheer me up before i resorted to cutting myself again" this woman literally gets fucked up cried over stuff and cuts herself she is in her 40's i do not feel comfortable with her watching my baby alone. to top it off her dogs piss all over everything in this house except the basement where we sleep and where our daughters room is i dont want her on the pee filled furniture upstairs especially as a new born with new lungs its not sanitary i want her down here where i have literally cleaned everything top to bottom. @andrew_nikolai2015

we live with his parents right now while we are saving so i dont have a choice if i want her to help i feel like shes going to butt in. i got a pack n play with a changing station i set it up and his mother n law goes oh this is great now i dont have to bend over and break my back to change her! like good for you i didnt buy it for your benefit i got it because i wanted a pack n play and i needed a changing station. we were not suppose to still be living here by the time she was born but it took longer for my fiance to get a job so we are stuck im just so irritated by it all. both his parents are alcoholics and she mixes her pills with beer so i dont trust her around my baby alone she is honestly kind of nuts. its just uncomfortable and my fiance says dont worry shes just trying to be involved in her granddaughters life itll be different when shes actually here its just all talk right now. well it makes me uncomfortable. @stephilynn19

I don't want to sound like I'm taking her side but her taking a month off to help you isn't her trying to run you baby and you she is trying to help. Trust me I wish someone did that for me. There were nights were I just couldn't do it because I was exhausted. Most father's will not get up in the middle of the night so it falls on mom. Accept the help don't push her away. If you do then she won't help you at all. The first few months are tough and you will feel very down and tired. If you don't want the help then don't take it just tell her but remember it's not easy and although many of us do it I would've rather had the help especially at night. Just some food for thought.

Oh my goshhhhhhhhh this very thing annoys me too when people say they're gonna come stay at my house and help take care of my kids. It's like I appreciate that you want to help, but now I have to parent the kids, as well as deal with a house guest. I keep telling people we are doing just fine and that we will let them know when we need help. They can either get crabby about it, or respect it. It's not up to them, it's you child don't let them undermine you!