Congratulations! You're pregnant or you just had your new baby, but what is your husband or significant other doing to help you?

We asked moms in the Preggie community what advice they had for new dads. Here are 14 tips for husbands to help make a new mom's life easier.💗

1️⃣ Just be there for her

💬My boyfriend has been such an amazing support system my whole pregnancy. He can't necessarily take the pain I have away or anything like that, but he really proves that simply being there is the most important thing. He hasn't missed one single doctors appointment. His dedication to the pregnancy really shows how he is going to be as a father. I hope once the "4th trimester" hits he is just as ready to be there, haha!😆

2️⃣ Postpartum care

💬You think the pregnancy is hard? The 4th trimester (postpartum) is the hardest trimester of all. We know you're exhausted, but we need you now more than ever. Our emotions are everywhere, and our bodies are forever changed. We are learning to be the new mother that we are. We need you, now more than ever, to be a strong supporter. Help out anyway you can. Laundry, dishes, feedings, changings, dinner time, bath time. You name it! The more you help, the more we will love and appreciate you, and we will "heal" much faster.❤️

3️⃣ Express your feelings even if you’re nervous

💬Its okay to be nervous. A baby is a big change.👶

4️⃣ Listen to her

💬Don't always think and say you're SO is using pregnancy as an excuse. yes there are pregnancies that are a breeze for some but for others it can be difficult and every pregnancy is different. just because your SO had an easier pregnancy the first time doesn't mean their current one isn't more difficult.

5️⃣ Be a team

💬If you're a stay at home parent and your spouse works, don't fight about whose job is "more." Respect one another's role in the family and acknowledge that both of you equally work hard every day to provide for your family. Yes, there will be days where yours is much longer than his/hers, but don't throw it in their face because there will be just as many days that their work day is a lot more than what yours has been. It's ALL about mutual respect and understanding that role each of you brings. Be a team, help one another out.💑

6️⃣ Ask what help is really needed

💬Ask mom exactly what she feels like she needs help with. For example I was completely fine being the one up with the babies in the middle of the night, even if he got up to feed them I'd be awake anyway just because I couldn't sleep until I knew baby was back to sleep so it was pointless for him to do that. (unless he wants to do it) but I really could have used his help with things like dishes and especially laundry those first few weeks/months.

7️⃣ Respect her

💬My husband tried telling me something the other day and I just had to ignore it or I'd have snapped. He works 14 hrs a day 7 days a week and not because he has to either. so I am with the kids 24/7 for the last 7 and 9 years! I know what I'm doing and how I want things done lol!!😉

8️⃣ Help with the “little things, ” which makes a big difference

💬I think for your SO the best thing he can do is the "little things." Little things make your world go round and you don't even realize it. Take out the trash, pick up her clothes from the floor when she starts to hit 5 months along cause heaven knows we can't pick up that crap lol. Think of things that are small that will make her day easier.

9️⃣ Give moms a break

💬Your wife's body will change in more ways then you can imagine. Support her and love her and don't forget to rub her feet or back. Run to the store of she really wants that candy bar or bag of chips....no matter how late it is.

🔟 Be patient and attentive

💬SO, be patient and attentive, also having a hands on attitude men can do everything the woman can except breast feed 😂. Give mom breaks when baby gets here, just time to herself or take the lead for the night in AM feedings. Be as supportive as you can during the pregnancy, spoil her however you can, take some weight off by doing the laundry that week or taking the kids do practice Etc.⚽️

1️⃣ 1️⃣ Be supportive

💬Support..? If you're a spouse, realize your girlfriend/fiancé/wife needs you as much as possible. She might look like she has it all under control, but, especially if she's a new mom, she does not, I repeat, DOES NOT have it all under control and she definitely needs every ounce of help she can get. Don't get frustrated or mad when she asks something or makes a mistake. She's learning. Just love her and support her.

1️⃣2️⃣ Communicate

💬Keep an open line of communication between the two of you. Your relationship is about to be out to the test. Keep your fingers crossed that it will go the way you want but don't hold your breath. If you can get throw the next 9months you can get throw about anything.

💬Talk about every parenting choice. From CIO to vaccines to cosleeping to diapers. Everything.🍼

1️⃣3️⃣ Be excited and curious

💬Be curious and excited about what's going on. It will help relieve some worries and stress.

1️⃣4️⃣ Enjoy her pregnancy and your little one! Your baby is only little for a short period of time, and you’ll look back at this early stage with longing.

What tips do your have for new dads? Please comment below.