Honestly just want to scream right now. Hubby doesn't want to look for a place for us to live at…
Honestly just want to scream right now. Hubby doesn't want to look for a place for us to live at all. Mind you we got evicted from our three bedroom apartment, now we are living in his grandfather's house were I'm constantly told how to parent, what I'm allowed to say to my kids, and when I should do things. On top of all that we are crammed into one tiny room that's full of his grandfather's stuff and now our daughter's pack n play, our son sleeps in bed with us and hubby wants to put a bassinet in there for the new baby. All while he sleeps all day so he can work while I get told my kids need to leave everything alone. I can't take much more but apparently I'm the unreasonable one because I don't want to be there and chase my kids around all day and night even when he doesn't work and that I just don't like his family. Not it my kids need there own space and so do I. End of rant.
Michelle Valdez·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
I know I'd b going crazy!! Idk how you can get him to get going on it but I know you somehow need to get him to understand how hard it is on you!! and without making him get defensive :-\ (which is probably what will happen) I guess try and wait for a good moment to bring it up and try to be as honest as possible about how the situation is making you feel. I wish you good luck!
Christa Moore·
Мама двоих (1 год, 2 года), ждёт третьего
I've tried talking about it with him before when it's us in the car or at night he just doesn't care. He is happy to be there it's basically always been home for him so he doesn't care how miserable I am or how his grandfather makes me feel. Hell a couple years ago he let his grandfather tell me the reason he was looking at other women was because I was fat and needed to lose weight in order to keep him happy at home. Honestly if it keeps up I'll use his income and get income based housing and he can continue to live there rent free while my kids and I live in our own space. @michellevaldez4750
Michelle Valdez·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
yeah, I would definitely consider doing that. You should not have to deal with that shit. and neither should the kids. I could understand if it was just a couple weeks but if he really has no plan to help you find something it's really his own fault. my husband let my FIL come stay on our couch for a few weeks, that was 4 YEARS ago! I absolutely hate the fact that I can never feel comfortable in mg own home. I can't just walk around in a tee shirt :( it sucks!!!
Michelle Valdez·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
and my father in law is still here*
Christa Moore·
Мама двоих (1 год, 2 года), ждёт третьего
I'm sorry that stinks. My fil stayed with us a while ago but he had his own room and he helped with the kids and house. I was comfortable with him there but only because he had his own space. I understand were your coming from sleeping on the couch and you not being able to do what you want to do. I'd have thrown his ass out. @michellevaldez4750
Michelle Valdez·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
That's the one reason I can deal with it, he built a bedroom in the basement and so he's not up here often anymore although I still can't walk around naked cuz he uses the bathroom up here lol. and he does help with the kids when my husband is working 24/7 and I have to run an errand. :) when he was on our couch though I was going crazy!
Christa Moore·
Мама двоих (1 год, 2 года), ждёт третьего
Oh I can image you were going crazy. Glad you get help from him though. @michellevaldez4750