I don't know why the hell it is so hard for my boyfriend to save money! There's a reason his other relationships didn't work with his other kids mothers! I'm already half way threw my pregnancy and he still hasn't saved shit! Why do I always have to be the one saving?! When is he gonna grow up?!
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer. My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk outside without this information. Children of color are being targeted and killed too. It’s not just adults. I let my son know we treat everyone equally and with respect. I let him know that we love everyone for their differences. In every aspect. Color, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual preference we love everyone.
Why can't other mom's just be there for other mom's and work together and help each other not bash other mom's because when other mom's bash other mom's it makes us feel like we aren't doing a good job at least that's how I feel when I get bashed.
Rant: my son is almost 16 months, yes, I whoop his butt when he runs from me when I try to change his butt or get him dressed, and yes, I spank his butt if he flips over during a diaper change, and yes I smack his hand when he hurts other people, and yes, it has helped a lot.
so idk what to do im supposed to be moving out with my bf, baby daddy he is 14 yrs older then me and he has his niece that is 25 that lives with him and she has a daughter that's almost 6 but on day she was being stupid and told me that I might have her daughters dad closer then me then i though since then we have had lots of fights about it and he always says it's not his daughter but why would she say that and why would he have gotten so mad when i questioned him about it and every time he post pictures and stuff about her he puts my daughter i am honestly double thinking this if I should move or not im 22 and 6 months pregnant!?????
Dominique·
Мама двоих (1 год, 5 лет)
Sorry to hear but children don't force men to grow up if he doesn't want to just do it he never will
Erin·
@b3autymarkk23, that's what my momma always says! Never count on a man to pay your bills! And it's oh so true!
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man i feel your pain. i have a huge hidden chuck saved while hes out buying bike parts and dumb things that are unnecessary comsidering we have a newborn on the way. Ill always have to just make sure me and my son are set in the end.
Jazmyne·
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Thanks
Erin·
@jmw24815,
Erin·
Gotcha! Well hopefully he'll realize what he had and change! 🙏🏼 I don't blame you at all! You deserve to be treated first, and not like something he stepped in, especially if your carrying his child!
Jazmyne·
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No offense taken to be completely honest no that's why we are separated and in two different states right now.
Erin·
@jmw24815, Hun i don't mean to sound rude, but Do you see/feel like he's trying to work on things?!
Erin·
@t142, at least their good for something! We just have to start training them with money! 😂
Jazmyne·
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No where at all it pisses me off he doesn't do shit for me but claims he's trying to fix things. The only way he's fixing things is by finding better ways to hide his dirt and make me feel like shit.
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Мама сына-младенца
Yes, mine is the same. He's great in the household but is horrible financially.
Erin·
@jmw24815, well at least I know he doesn't have money to buy other girls gifts! But I wouldn't stand for him buying gifts for other women! But where is he flying you?! You should be the one going places not his friends!
Jazmyne·
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Same mine spends money on laptops and flies him and his friends to different places and sends gifts to chicks that I don't know smh.
Erin·
@wandal24, exactly! He has 2 kids that he owes back child support on and one on the way! His other children's mothers barely let him talk to them Bc he doesn't do anything for them. Which makes me sad Bc I want him to have a relationship with his kids, but Bc he can't save money that's kind of what he gets!
wgj·
@mommahood93, yes and you get ries of giving extra chances like come on man it's not that hard you have a kid already and u have another one on the way I try my best to tell him go see your kid cus I don't want your bm talking shit later on just provide what u need to and see ur child that's it. We'd probably be better men if we were able to
Erin·
Idk what I would do if I found my bf took something.... His ass would be out! They always act like sorry fixes everything 🙄 it's just a word after a while! It's like I just want the proof! @wandal24
wgj·
@mommahood93, yup I found something else he had consumed about a week ago & I didn't even stress it I just wanted to cry out of anger it really pissed me off & then they act like a sorry fixes everything it really doesn't
Erin·
@taraduffy79, oh my mom and I MADE him get a job! And the owner of the companies son goes to daycare where I work, so I'll know that he's going everyday! And we told him that if he quits this job he's going back to Missouri.... Where he came from! And he won't see his son!
Erin·
I completely understand! @wandal24 I just found out he paid $50 to pay his weed guy back, then got $40 more... Like wtf was the point! We had talked and agreed that $15 a week would be a good amount, and that he has to learn quality control, and yet he goes behind my back and does something different! It's so frustrating!!! 😡 he just got paid Friday and has barely any left!
Tara·
Мама троих детей
Kinda same situation. I worked long shifts and overnights throughout the whole 9 months of my pregnancy. My boyfriend didn't have a job the whole time @mommahood93
wgj·
@mommahood93, wow what a similar thing we have my bf buys weed to & I just be like wtf you can't give me half the shit you spend on that thing to me to provide for our unborn child? I stress it sometimes cus I don't wanna be empty handed with a baby! Sometimes he can't even please my cravings cus he has no money so what am I suppose to eat luckily I can cook me up something but damn it's aggravating!
Erin·
@t142, that was really nice of your family! I have a feeling my mom will be paying for my child more then my bf will. He's a good guy, just SUCKS at money management!
Erin·
It's sad, and I hate it but I question that sometimes too! @wandal24 It's not like he pays for anything, he just spends all his money on weed and pointless crap, and pretty soon he's getting child support taken out of his checks for both his children, so he really won't have money!
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Мама сына-младенца
In my case my side of the family has helped out. They bought all the furniture: pack and play, swing, dresser, stroller, 4 in 1 car seat, infant car seat, changing table plus gave us a bunch of babies r us gift cards. All we got was the crib. Plus more little things like clothes a mobile, light projector. I'm tired of this shit.
wgj·
Am the same almost half way through my pregnancy & baby dad hasn't given me shit for the baby. Makes me questions why I got pregnant of him 😒
Erin·
Luckily I'm working! But I can't be the only one paying for OUR baby! Thank the lord for my momma! Hopefully they get their shit together! @t142
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Мама сына-младенца
SAME HERE! And now I'm not working.