Have any of you ladies tried counseling to fix your marriage after being cheated on? Did it help?…

A marriage is worth fighting for no matter what hunny I don't think it'll be a waste of time if you guys really wanna be together go for it do what u have to do to save your marriage

@fxhie,

If you both want to try and save it, anything is worth a shot.

its all up to both of you guys n if youre ready to forgive i hope things get better ive been thru it even you need to talk im here u can always message me ❤

I think studies show that generally counseling helps a lot, especially when both partners are willing.

It's pointless to me. I just see it as them doing their job, they're going to say what they have to, get their money and that's it. In the end it's what he and I choose but I already tried. Our communication was great, I sacrificed so much for him, helped him emotionally, physically and financially, gave up things I loved to keep him happy and if all that isn't enough what more could I possibly try for? He did what he did and thought he would get away with it , I just feel like he's sorry because he got caught. If there was something wrong , something he didn't like why couldn't he come to me and we try fixing it , why can he tell a total stranger what he didn't like and not me when I'm the only person who could fix it. Get me? I've always been an easy person to talk to, never have I given him any reason why he can't come to me with anything. I was such a sucker for him, so in love that I kissed his ass . He just wanted to fuck around. That's it. There's no excuse as to why you hurt the person you claim to love. That isn't love. He's going to say what he has to say cause he hates change. He had his fun and expects me to be there after when I was seriously all about him? Fuck that. Everything is slapping me in the face right now and I see how blinded I was because of him. So many things given up for someone who didn't give a shit. Just took advantage. I don't even want to try it for the kids because I don't feel like anything will change, I mean I thought everything was great and this came out of nowhere. It's not like we were having major problems where I saw it coming. So now I'm going to question everything. And I don't want to put my babies through seeing us unhappy and fighting. I just don't know. @twins1987 @karramaej @p0790 @kat616

I don't even know if all that made sense. My mind is a mess and I'm just all over the place right now. So I apologize if i sound stupid about this whole situation I don't have anyone to talk about it with and when it comes out its just a big emotional mess.

I'm sorry, that's rough. :( It's hard when it feels like there's no hope. Maybe there's a counselor you could even talk to on your own- someone who'll actually listen to how you feel and help evaluate. Maybe not even a counselor, but just someone you could confide completely in. My husband and I met with a church leader once when we were struggling and it helped just to have my feelings recognized. Whether things work out or not, I really wish you the best. Sorry you're going through such a hard time. :(

If that is honestly how you feel sometimes time is the best medicine. I'm not a fan of paying for help either. But after some time you have a clearer head. Even if its a few years. If there is still love then you guys can always try again later. I hate having to question anything and understand where you are coming from. If you dont see a counselor helping now then it honestly might not even be worth it but you can always change your mind. I am truely sorry he did that because no one deserves wiether guy or girl to feel that way. You do have a little one and a bundle of joy soon to come that will always love you and have 0 chance of cheating, but I personallyy wouldnt stay just because of them. At that point its like a prison sentence. atleast in my opinion.

im not married but ive been with with this man for 2 years going on 3... my advice is keep trying till ur over it. dont listen to no one else cuz they wont be dealing with what ur going thru. if they were in ur shoes im sure they wouldnt take their own advice. this man i love soooo much has been an ass. now that im about to have our boy he took a turn for better. not all men change. not everything gets better... its just a matter of hope and effort. and as long as u gave it ur all. atleadt u can say u gave it ur all...