am i wrong for not wanting my boyfriends mom in the room anymore or any of his family to know im in…

I understand how you're feeling.. my mom told me straight out she will always love my nephew more then my daughter... it's not wrong of you to want it to just be your significant other and yourself.. because that's honestly what I want.. I don't want anyone there but us two.

i want my family there though and but my mom in the room along with him. i feel like its me being selfish and only including my family. but they dont even show love towards my daughter, they dont talk to her in my belly or nothing!! and im so used to my mom talking to her all the time. and to be late to my baby shower just shows me its not a major priority to them but with his sister they where super early and helped set up-.- and wow your mom said that to you😡😡😡 that is so messed up. that would make me cry, becus what did your daughter do to deserve less love then your nephew it makes me so mad becus innocent babies deserve the samd amount of love. and it makes me hurt for them @mommypanda

I know exactly how you feel my in laws are all about my step kids and my husband's brothers kids but mine go over amd it's like oh there here and with this baby his mom is just like whatever and shit so I don't talk to them much or tell them anything about the baby I won't tell them when I'm in labor maybe the next day

thats how i was treated from my step family mostly my step grandma so for me to fear my daughter to feel the same way I did (not good enough) is eating my up inside, and makes me so sad i cry every day about it and she moves and reassures me that gods love and mine my bfs and my familys love will be good enough. im sorry they do that to your kids/: its so messed up . no baby or kids deserve to feel unwanted or in competition to feel loved. i really dnt wana tell them but im afraid if i dont it will cause problems @mommyof5kayla

Yeah its been almost 4 years now I just gave up on trying with my in laws I always say as long as they know my family will always love them they are good and I don't even go to my in laws as much anymore only when my brother in law is in town or my husband makes me go

yup thats all u can do is just love them and reassure them its not youur kids fault they are perfect:) and i live with them so it makes it harder @mommyof5kayla

I can't live with mine I'll go crazy I don't even like being over there lol

I feel like you are kind of exaggerating something that hasn't even come to pass and I'm speaking from experience. I felt the same exact way even for a while after my daughter was born but my in laws just weren't very interested in pregnancy and my mother in law didn't really do newborns but now! PSH, you couldn't pay to keep my daughter and mother in law apart despite her 7 previous grandkids and my in laws are the only ones my daughter will stay with she won't even go with my mom or sister. You just have to accept that they have all been through this stage so they aren't going to necessarily be as excited as you want them to be but that isn't fair for you to just write them off.

i know its just my way of building my wall up to protect my daughter before anybody can get the chance to hurt her. i dont want her to ever feel unloved or unwanted and like i was telling my mom i think my hormones and her coming very soon are playing in a big roll in it. its hard to tell if its my hormones or my real feelings. my daughter is just a baby and so innocent with no voice so me as her mommy is blocking out people before they can hurt her like they have hurt me/: but u are right @quea

my dads family wants nothing to do with my except my cousins, they didnt care for my dad when he died etc its a jacked up family.. and my step family they always treated me different from my step brother and never included me in anything almost causing my mom and step dad to divorce when i was little they would invite him places but never me. that's probably why i feel so protective because i dont want her to ever experience that

@quea,

Yea but that isn't fair to her because by doing that you are the only one hurting her in the end. You are keeping them away from her for something they haven't even done yet, I'm only telling you from experience because I did the same exact thing and it was based off of feelings that I was having simply because they didn't seem as excited as I wanted them to be. It was very unfair that they missed out on the first few months of my daughters life and it was me that caused it for no reason but I lived and learned and now my daughter has an amazing bond with them!

well i wasnt going to keep them away from here expecially since i live with them u know. and i wasnt planning on keeping her away. i just wanted my mom in the room and not his mom. but idkk i know he would like his mom in there because simply that is his mother. i was asking if i was wrong or if my hormones and past experiences where getting the best of me @quea

@quea, this is my first, im just so excited for her to be here i want to be the best mommy i can be and protect her from everything, and toxic people like my real dads family. I suffered from depression and being suicidal and having bad anger issues and i want to do anything i can to prevent her from ever feeling depressed