@arijane316, My sister never cares about what anyone else is going through or how they feel. it's about her and what she wants. She 19 and thinks she knows it all. I have never had a good relationship with her and now that we share something in common I was trying all through her pregnancy and even how to be there and she keeps telling me not to be anywhere. But she will call our other sister who is a drug addiction and our 2 cousins to be there. so no I don't think she has sympathy for anyone.

I can understand where your coming from. but have you thought about the fact that just maybe she's keeping everyone away so that not everyone gets hurt if something happens to her baby? maybe she's trying to spare everyone's feelings and doesn't want al the sympathy from everyone

@mom13, She told me I couldn't be in the delivery room and then she said she don't want me to be at her daughters appt and she even said she don't want a lot of people around. which is only me and my 3 kids. She says she want just my mom and our aunt there. I have never had a very good relationship with her, but I keep trying and I get the hint. I'm not going to be used when they would never do this for me. and no one came to see my baby when she was born just 6 weeks ago. and now my children are old news since my sister had her baby. Even before we knew about the extra hole in her heart.

don't push her away try to understand she is stressed and worried about her LO show her by being there even when she says she doesn't want you there try to think how you would feel if it was your little one in this boat