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People say there's no right time to get pregnant but lately I've been feeling like right now, that's a "no shit…

People say there's no right time to get pregnant but lately I've been feeling like right now, that's a "no shit sherlock" statement. It was a complete accident that this happened and ever since, my SO and I have been struggling to keep ourselves afloat. So how can we even bring a baby into this? He refuses to ask for help from our parents. He even said he wouldn't take the money my dad's gonna give him for when they start the renovations on my parents house. We were talking about our financial situation on the way home last night and it just opened up a can of worms again. I started feeling useless once again because he's the one paying for everything because I'm working a dead-end job and I don't work enough hours to contribute. And the fact that I can't get a job while pregnant. Cause what kinda place hires someone knowing they're pregnant and have to take maternity leave within a few months? Yeah, no one would...

And he's being so understanding...even when I don't deserve it. He says we'll be fine but I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. We both were crying last night because of all this and whenever he gets too upset, he has a panic attack. It happened twice... and there's nothing I can do to help him calm down when it happens. Again... useless. I hate feeling like this. Like I made the biggest mistake of my life and I hate feeling that way. It makes me feel like a horrible person...for ever even thinking that I wish I'd never got pregnant...

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hardyharharleigh

HarleighВ ожидании первенца

He tells me touching him makes it worse. And I tell him to breathe but he just says "easier said than done." That's why I feel useless when it happens.. @myfirstbaby97

And @xoxoalexusss exactly the same thing with us. I only make 9/hour and don't get enough hours to make up for that. He works 5, sometimes 6 days a week and he's getting a raise soon so that'll help some. It just sucks because we recently got TV with our internet plan and we may not be able to keep it cause I can't afford my half of the bill. He told me the only reason he got it was cause he wanted to do something nice for me cause I missed having TV...

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del_1508980480_myfirstbaby97

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My SO gets panic attacks too. You are NOT useless there. Just grab him and hold his head on your chest and gently rub his back and stay calm and tell him to focus on breathing big deep breaths and not to talk. It could take a few minutes to an hour or more for him to calm down but you aren't useless

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xoxoalexusss

AlexusМама сына (7 лет), беременна (30 нед.)

Your story describes me & my bf so much . I just got a job (not mentioning that I was pregnant) that only pays 9 an hour. Me & my SO have been looking for everything we need to , to start looking for a home . & just as you , my name isn't gonna be on anything because I can't contribute. & I too feel like an ass . So now he puts pressure on me , to go back to school & get a certificate or degree that would help make more money but at the day , he makes wayyy more money than I do . So now I'm stressed out because of all this extra pressure I have to put on for him & our son. It just really sucks ..

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Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday…

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?

so I need some advice, I'm currently pregnant from a man who is married with a ten year old. he says he married her…

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