Yeah am just going to tell him it's up to him if he wants to be at the birth then that's fine but if he wants to stay at home with our daughter then that's fine either way Al have someone with me because if he doesn't want to I know my grandma would jump at the chance of being there again, and I wouldn't say he's unsupportive he was useless in the beginning and never spoke about it and didn't really want to know its only been the last couple of weeks he's been asking if I like this name or that name, I think he's coming round to the idea of having another girl because everyone keeps telling him if our 1st dotes on him like she does then the second most probably will and he loves the extra attention she gives him when he comes in from work, it will be doubled with another daddy's girl lol @cookedsushi xx

He was there when our 1st was born but my grandma said he seemed really worried when I was in labour, I on the other hand was to wrapped up in the pain to see how he was coping, I have spoke to him about it and he just says he doesn't want to be in there on his own with just me and him, maybe he feels like he won't be much help as my grandma was amazing last time and did get me through the pain where as my OH just sat on the side lines, I don't want him to come if he truly doesn't want to because I don't want him to have to witness it if the 1st time was to much for him, It just makes me feel like he has no interest this time around whereas with our 1st he was so excited and couldn't wait to meet his little princess, and I know he was really hoping for a boy and I'm not sure if he has getting over the disappointment of having a second girl yet and maybe won't until he sees her. I don't want to make him come with me I want him to come because he wants to lol, all these feeling and emotions are no good at the end of pregnancy lol @cookedsushi xx

Am so done worrying about it, when I go into labour if he wants to come he can if not then fine am not going to force him cause I want someone positive and happy around me when I'm in labour not someone who's looks bored and is no help, hope yours wants to help you through labour but if not don't worry about it try and find someone who's going to help you through it @tg123456789 xx

i feel like ive done everything on my own so far. he doesnt talk about the baby or anything and weve not discussed labour but im pretty sure he too will make something up to put in way of been there @nic881 x