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LADIES I HAVE A QUESTION! PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR INPUT!!! I asked my boyfriend could I see who he messages on Facebook. He…

LADIES I HAVE A QUESTION! PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR INPUT!!! I asked my boyfriend could I see who he messages on Facebook. He said "you gotta be kidding me right?" and "you're not serious". So I was caught off guard when he said that. He never gives me a straight answer why he won't let me see his message. He automatically gets upset and trys to turn it around on me like I'm crazy for even asking him. Like I just killed his entire family by asking to see who he messages. So I got upset and cried and told him I didn't trust him and all he had to do was show me, I wanted to be proven wrong. But he rather me die or lose the baby over stress then me see his messages. I ended up crying all the way home and a little after he dropped me off. He later sends me screensshots of his messages. (which is stupid bc you could delete anything or not show everything that way). IS THIS CHEATING BEHAVIOIR LADIES?!

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jaycemommy

JordanВ ожидании первенца

baby girl trust your instincts, if you felt the need to ask to see the messages in the first place mean that deep down you already feel that he's doing something wrong. his reaction to the situation was only more confirmation

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tomoiee95

AsiaВ ожидании первенца

I think you're absolutely right. @babybue16

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babybue16

BВ ожидании первенца

@tomoiee95,

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babybue16

BВ ожидании первенца

I don't think you are being too dramatic. And for people who think you should just trust him and leave it alone, trust is earned (like I said earlier). You are having a baby and if there is an issue it is better to identify it early so you can work on it or move on. I never had a reason not to trust my husband when we started dating, but I'd been burned in the past and It was hard for me to trust. It helped to have access to his stuff so I could check whenever and KNOW nothing was going on. I still can check and I don't think I've even looked at anything of his in over 2 years because he's earned my trust. There is nothing wrong with not being naive. You never know what someone else is doing all the time. You never know what's going on in there head. It takes time to earn trust. And if there is nothing going on then he shouldn't care to show you whatever you want to see whenever you want to see it. I think being completely open with each other is the only way to trust each other.

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tomoiee95

AsiaВ ожидании первенца

Thanks ladies and I know I'm not going to die. I was trying to explain to you how much he wouldn't allow me to see his phone. He's never cheated to my knowledge, but I just don't like this sneaking behavior. I just wanted to know if I was being too dramatic for getting upset with him. @lilkountryma @mamatobe203 @simone.nicole87 @babybue16 @babyolive @babyrsmommy @arivera64 @hayleybug333 @caydensmommy

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ladyameliasmama

KatelynВ ожидании первенца

You aren't going to die nor is your baby. Why don't you trust him? Has he cheated before? Yes his behaviour is sketchy but there's two sides to every story and if there's no trust y'all have a lot to work on.

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mamatoethan203

AnnaВ ожидании первенца

I was cheated on by my ex multiple times and that right there is a huge red flag. I hope you guys work things out. you don't need that stress esp when pregnant.

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simone.nicole87

SimoneМама подростка

Def suspect for sure. id be pissed too. and those screen shots mean nothing lol

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babybue16

BВ ожидании первенца

If there wasn't anything to hide, he would've shown you. If he's not cheating, there is something else he doesn't want you to see. My husband always allowed me to look at his phone/FB and vice versa. Trust is earned.

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babyolive

KateМама дочки-младенца

Honestly yes that does sound like cheating behavior. The whole screen shot thing is such bs. He could of just deleted the messages he didn't want you to see. Has he lied in the past?

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raesmommy16

Brieanna VillanuevaВ ожидании первенца

That's how it was when my and my fiancé first started dating and I caught him talking to multiple people. He thought he was sneaky. But after all that passed we gave eachother our passwords to every account we have and girl if I get suspicious I just log on and look myself. But I haven't been suspicious of anything in a loooooooong time.

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del_1512250114_arivera64

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Well first you won't die or lose the baby because of stress. Second, to me that IS a cheating sign. My husband would probably feel offended if i asked him to see his messages, but then he would show me still.

If you don't trust him then you guys have things to work on.

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hayleybug333

HayleyВ ожидании первенца

my ex did tge same thing and i later cought him in tons of lies....im not saying hes cheating but it sounds like he is to me

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caydensmommy

caydensmommyМама сына (1 год)

It's kind of sketchy he wouldn't let you see his messages, do you think he's cheating?

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