I haven't been on here in forever but I could honestly use some support. My ex seems to think that he's going to get split custody. He lives alone in an apartment we shared, he smokes weed and gets drunk every weekend, buys alcohol for minors, doesn't clean(I always did it) he doesn't care about me or ask me how I'm doing.. At first we won't have court involved right away so im thinking I'll be with him when he's with her supervising because I've been told that he can take her and not give her back because we have equal rights. I'm going to be breastfeeding so I know she can't spend the night alone with him but I wouldn't want her to anyway. I want him to see her all the time but I feel like it's only okay if I supervise.
I would definitely supervise for now and use breastfeeding as an excuse and if he starts to get difficult about it, that's when I would involve the court. I know you're probably wanting to keep things as peaceful as possible but I wouldn't want my child in that environment either.
Make your own breakfast!
At what age do you think a child should be making their own breakfast? I have a 10 year old and I think he is perfectly capable of making himself breakfast. It doesn't take rocket science to put some waffles into the toaster, or microwave some pancakes. My husband insists that he needs to have breakfast made for him because if we left it up to him he wouldn't eat enough and it would take him forever.
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer.
My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk out...
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
yeah, if you feel at all uncomfortable you should definitely supervise. at least until you can see how he is with her. you're the one who's carried her inside you and have already fallen in love. It takes men a while longer sometimes and you shouldn't feel guilty for having those feelings and concerns. and like @jleightutt said, you can use breastfeeding as an excuse. it's a good reason not to want to risk her being away from you too long!