I need to vent... So my husband and I have been having some rough times lately and he's been acting funny about his phone. Today we got into an argument so I left him alone and laid on the couch for a bit when I came and got in the bed, I laid on his phone & I took the opportunity to find out for myself if he's been cheating on me. Well, I found a lot of stuff... There were text in his phone from a girl saying "baby". He has a meet me account and was talking to several girls. One which he met up with a little less than a week ago and lied to me about it. Told several girls how cute they were and how he wanted to talk to them on the phone. Etc etc. had a snap chat that I didn't know about for nudes. And he had activated several other dating accounts. & one he paid 30 dollars for knowing we are tight on money. Someone please help me on what I should do. & don't just tell me to leave him. We've been together 5 years and married for almost one (anniversary is on Saturday) :( and now how son will be here in the next week. So it's not just up and leaving. How do I deal with this? I'm thousands of miles away from my family and I had to quit my job because of the baby so I don't have any money..
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I would confront him about it. Most importantly, pray about it, and have faith! I know it may not seem as helpful but God works in mysterious ways.
@mjsaunders no problem luv 😘 if you ever need anything, prayer or what not, just message me and I'll be there for you 😉
@christineg, thank you for sending your thoughts and prayers our way! It means a lot! God is amazing and I knew he kept telling me not to give up and He showed me exactly what I needed. My faith, my hope, everything was gone. But then there was God shining through it all! And I haven't seen it but I will definitely look into it!
@mjsaunders Praise God that is amazing 🙏🏽😘 I'm so happy for you! Like I said, if God wants it, then it will happen. I'll keep praying for you and your family, when it gets rocky, and it will again because the enemy wants you to doubt God, don't stumble with your prayers. Grab your husband and pray with him. Both of you pray with your children at the end of the night and have it be a routine. Have you seen the movie War Room yet??? It's SO good and you and your husband will definitely relate to it.
@christineg, that's exactly what happened. God talked through me to get to my husband. I've never felt better after saying what I did to him. Nothing hateful no yelling. Nothing. I told him exactly how I felt and my husband actually listened to me. I prayed harder than I ever prayed before and God reached out to me. Things are already looking up and I can't wait for him to get that much better.
@mjsaunders, I'll be praying for God to send the Holy Spirit over you for strength and for your words to flow freely 👍🏽 you can do it! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@christineg, thank you. That helped a lot. I'm going to continue to pray about it. And today I plan to talk about it and try to get everything straightened out. And I agree, I don't want my children growing up in a broken home because I think he'll change. I'm going to stand my ground and let him know the line.
@kandice_stedman86, thank you for you advice! I'm hoping things change!
If you don't want to leave him, then talk to him about it and tell him your bottom line. Ask him why he did it and get his perspective. Not to justify why he did it because there is NO excuse for going out with other women and lord forbid he had sex with any of them because then you should send him to get tested for any STDs. And sad to say, yourself too. And then probably go to counseling. Of course the greatest counselor is God. Prayer is powerful and you should see if this is how God wants you to live your life. Also, is this what you want your son to grow up to see. If it doesn't get fixed and you stay with him anyways for the sake of your kids having two parents, are you going to be ok with your kids seeing their dad going out and meeting other girls while you stay at home? And yes, your kids will know. Kids are so smart and see everything. And if it continues, they will definitely hear you fight about it and cry over it because the man you love isn't staying true to your family. It's not just up to you to keep your family together, it's his responsibility too. Does he want to stay together? Because if he doesn't, then you're gna have a really hard time keeping him faithful to you. So talk to him. And let him know how much he is disrespecting you and that you are not going to stand for that because you shouldn't.
You do have money. You have all the money that he has. Figure out if it's worth fixing first without being irrational, consider all the pros and cons. What he is doing is completely out of line. He's married he shouldn't be talking to anyone in that way but you period!!! Consider what u consider cheating. Then go from there, make a plan even if that means going home to family.
Well if you were married he will have to pay you child support legally and do you have any family to help out with support or friends
I had to quit my job so I have no money. I used everything I had to make sure everything was ready for my baby. I just can't believe he would do this... But I guess you're right.. Maybe it's time to just walk away. I just don't know how I'm going to manage alone. With no support or money.. @countrymama166
Some men just haven't matured and if he said it won't fix anything then I hate to say it but you might have to move on even though I'm divorced her father is still apart of her life but I understand having to up and move will make it hard :/
I hope that doesn't happen to me. And I'm sorry you had to go through that. I just adore him. I really do. But this is ridiculous. I want my son to have both parents and if I do find a way to get back to GA, where I'm from, he'll never see his child because he's in the military. I've tried to talk to him but all he says is "it won't fix anything" and I used to not be like this but it's like when he gets upset and we argue, he wants attention from other girls. I don't understand. I've never done this to him. Never cheated on him or anything. @countrymama166
I really hate to say this but my ex husband did that to me we tried to make it work for a long time and it just didn't and we ended up in divorce and now I'm with somebody who treats me a million times better doesn't hide his phone and faithful treats my daughter as his own and have our own baby on the way ..... Not saying this will happen to you but if you want to make it work I would suggest marriage counseling and confronting him about it I confronted my ex husband and he would lie about it and finally when I had screen shots and facts he owned up to it so I would try asking him about it and seeing if he wants to fix the marriage and then do some counseling and find out why he felt the need to do all of that some guys get scared with a baby on the way and act super foolish .... But it's going to take some time for you to build trust with him .... I was always afraid when his phone went off it was another girl or when he walked out the door if he was meeting up with a girl and it drove me crazy
im sorry but everything ur saying.. why would u even want to fix it. u cant fix it. hes cheating not with one person but alot. who knws whi hes out sleeping with or if hes even using condominium. hes not caring bout u or ur unborn child obviously. he doesnt really care. not even a little. u should leave him n thats the honest truth. hes not gonna stop. its up to u but do u honestly think he will stop? or just get smarter about it?