Yes try that if you can! we have done alot of therapy sessions and although it's pricey some therapists work with you when your insurance doesn't cover it. it really helps us and I'm actually going individually now to learn how to not hate him for his mistakes because I know in the end i don't want to leave I just don't cope well sometimes with things.

Exactly. I understand. When I married my husband I planned on sticking around forever but it really is exhausting. A lot of people think I'm just stupid for staying but marriages take work and it isnt always over when one messes up. I really want to try marriage counseling but its expensive and our insurance doesn't cover it.. I think even healthy relationships can benefit from counseling.

i give you lots of credit and hope he sees your worth and how hard you try. I don't know if I'm becoming sexist but I really don't think men give women credit for how caring and determined we are. my husband and I have been through so much and have had trust issues with money and sadly he had a drug dependency for a while and it's like I never thought I could deal with that but here I am chugging along. I want what's best for my family and I want to stay true to my vows. it's exhausting sometimes. @momwife1316

Right. You can only give so much and give so many hints. Its not a give and take.. its a give & give. Sometimes men have to earn special favors lol especially when they are asses. We've definitely had our downs but I love him. hes a idiot but hes my idiot. Im just hoping our relationship gets a little better.. cuz things have gotten rocky ever since I got pregnant.. I dont know how much more I can deal with though. @jamielynn07

props to you @momwife1316 for being such a go getter and being determined to make it work and keep your family together after he has done those things. my husband hasn't done those things and I'm still a nervous wreck to be in control like that. I feel that if he doesn't want to have sex then he must not want special favors either lol

@jamielynn07, yes! Exactly! Best way to explain it! Lol guys are jerks when they want it they get it or they can easily "take care" of themselves while if we want it...nope and it's harder for us!

same here!! @sharonpaige13 I honestly feel like he has sex with me like once every 10 days just because eh were supposed to I guess lol

I've been feeling like that for the past week! Been throwing signs and hints...trying to be sexy but he usually just turns over and says night and ignores me :( I just feel like a big ugly whale to him anymore :(

yeah for sure. I give him oral so he doesn't feel like hes being left out. with two kids that's all there will be time for at first anyways and I want him to know I'm still into him even if I cant have sex yet. My husband has cheated though so it definitely plays a role in what or how much I do for him in the bedroom. @jamielynn07

I wish I knew what my husband's problem was lol he's not cheating or watching porn. I think he's a good husband and dad otherwise and it's like he has no time for sex. it's like he's the woman lol. oral after baby seems like such a rip off but honestly my husband never asked me once after I had my son. it's a good feeling to be wanted in some way so I guess that helps make it worth it haha @momwife1316

exactly. I didn't miss this part of it lol last time my husband had a big problem with porn and it ruined our marriage. He finally has it under control but now hed just rather not do anything even tho I keep telling him I want to have sex. I know I'll be the one doing all the oral for like two months after baby so I want something too haha

Oh gosh he needs to kick it into gear!! and I have thought the same..2 can play this game altho like I said i don't kno that my man would care either way.. having sex needs to be a team effort even if your not feeling it sometimes.. I'm actually nervous for nursing because I'm afraid that would be a turn off for him and it makes me depressed. it's alot of pressure as a woman to feel motherly and give birth but to also feel sexy and wanted in that way other than just as a mom all the time. @momwife1316

I definitely agree. and I only have until Wednesday morning to be able to do anything sexual. I'm hoping for something tonight or I wont give up to him for a looooooong time! haha

I mean it's just as awkward for us tho lol @momwife1316 I don't know that sex has been that important to him since we became parents 3 years ago.. kinda a punch in the face to the confidence levels

That was me last night too.but I kinda get why he wouldn't. our baby bellies are awkward lol