ok so i need a rant...so lik how many of u ladies r trying for a vbac?? I hav had two c secs..first one was undiagnosed breach n baby was distressed even though id been induced ...

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ok so i need a rant...so lik how many of u ladies r trying for a vbac?? I hav had two c secs..first one was undiagnosed breach n baby was distressed even though id been induced n laboured whole day only to b rushed in to theatre cuz baby had pooed in me..my second c sec was cuz dey wouldn't wait n sed baby head had swelling..which after research i learnt is normal n is called moulding wen babies head passes thru birth canal..i felt fobbed off lik dey just wanted to slice n dice me..branded me high risk n a failure cuz according to them I didn't dilate fast enuf..lik im abnormal..just so pissed of at remarks made by professionals n some spiteful n arrogant pple..lol lik I was told skinny gals cant labour lol..n my pelvis is too small n I genetically hav large babies..jus feel so unsupported n put dwn..my oh is d only one who has always supported me..but its really making me feel anxious as my due date is approaching n im starting to feel lik shit tbh.. hate all dis scaremongering all these highly intelligent n experienced pple do..n even so called friends n family look at me lik im not a normal woman..pple just dont understand dat its my choice n my body..if I want to experience normal birth n it is safe to do so..wat is d problem? ? am I over reacting ladies..please be honest x

d844 · Answer

@purity463,  I'm going for a vbac after 3 sections. I got the same as you so I went away, did loads of research so I was armed with figures and met up with my hospitals consultant midwife. she was massively supportive. the NICE guidelines changed in December saying that you can be considered for vbac after up to 4 sections. the constrictions lay in women who didn't labour well or had slow progression. see your head midwife at your hospital and discuss your notes fully. offer to be monitored and be realistic about the chances of section. my consultant wants me to have an epidural in place incase I have to be rushed for section. so I am meeting with the anaesthetist to discuss it, have an open mind but tell them what you want if that makes sense. message me if I can help any more at all x

safena · Answer

thanku ladies..im so glad I hav u gals for support. hugs n kisses. god bless xxx

Nads · Answer

@emmaclark, no problem hun and yh if that's what you want then go for it! as long as it's safe for you and baby of course, I hate that people like to put mothers and women down for trying rather than building them up and helping to empower them. xx

emma · Answer

thanks hun. baby number 2 is still a while off for me but it's good to know that vbac is possible!! definitely gonna try next time around if doctors will let me(since they don't have a medical reason not to)😊xx @nadsx316

Nads · Answer

@emmaclark,  unless the Dr has a medical reason why, then you should be able to have a v-bac if you'd like to, my friend had an emergency c-section with her first after pushing and getting nowhere and the baby became very distressed (they found out the cord was around his neck 3 times and he was stuck).  She has since had 3 more babies and the eldest just turned 5 last week, the second is 3, the third is 2 and the youngest is almost 1.  If you want to try then don't let anyone put you off if you have been given the all clear by the midwives and drs then go for it, sometimes some people are negative because they're jealous and couldn't handle it themselves so like to believe others can't either xx

Nads · Answer

you can definitely do it if you want to and there's no medical reasons to stop you.  I'm skinny  (size 8) and have always been and heard a lot of the things you've been told by friends and family "you don't have birthing hips, you'll never be able to manage" blah blah blah lol...it was all a load of crap! not only did I deliver my babies normally but I did it without any form of pain relief and intend to do the same with this baby (my third) in fact I'm hoping for a water birth this time around lol.  You go for it and ignore the remarks of others especially when they don't know what they're talking about xx

safena · Answer

thanks ladies xxx

emma · Answer

ur not overreacting at all, I had an emergency csection in february. they allowed me to reach to pretty much fully dilated until they realised my pelvis was too narrow for my baby, he was 8lb 1oz. I felt really let down as I had a really, fine but long labour, which I actually looking back at sort of enjoyed lol! I always say I'd like to try natural the next time but everyone has told me I will need an csection again because I've had one before, which is pretty shit as I would like the choice😞 I would love to be able to try a natural delivery! x

Bethany · Answer

I didn't have a csection...but I had complications...so needed a spinal and forcep delivery :) I really hope I don't have any complications next time...because I felt sad that I didn't feel myself push my daughter out( I was numb) I really wanted to experience that. I didn't plan to have a spinal...and even though I had it due to complications and no choice....I would not be having it again. A lot of women get a lot grief when they say they want to do it all natural..no pain relief or anything...people just laugh and say you won't be saying that when you are in labour :) I only wanted gas and air..which I had from 8cms...and I didn't have it while pushing for one hour... So I kinda get what you are saying and coming from x

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