I'm sorry to gripe but I have nowhere to turn. my man doesn't seem to get that when he says things…

I'm sorry to gripe but I have nowhere to turn. my man doesn't seem to get that when he says things that are hurtful I'm not prone to want to give out the goods. he then complains I'm distant when he's not getting I'm distant because of things he says. when I talk to him about it he is dismissive and acts like it's not a big deal. I'm so frustrated.