In need of advice, please no judgement..
next week I'll be induced if I don't go into labor sooner and I'm on the edge of letting my son's father be there. When I was 7 months pregnant he kicked me out of the house after leaving me there for 2 weeks without a call or text to let me know what was going on. He would come home and get clothes whenever I was at work or elsewhere. After the 2 weeks passed he finally came home and said we were going to work on things it was super bowl Sunday and I told him I would go grocery shopping and for him to go to his mom's and watch the game because I wouldn't go there (previous incidents of them calling me names and being disrespectful towards me for no reason). He told me he would come help with groceries when I got home just to call him but when that time came he ignored my call then called me back and said "it's not going to work and that I got a week to move out" stopped talking for a month or so then I have been trying to make things easier so things are difficult when our son is born but instead he's been hanging out and drinking with my best friends.. Most of the time I try getting ahold of him he replys hours later or not at all the only time he will get ahold of me is maybe once a week late at night.. I feel as if I don't have him there for the delivery I'll feel guilty because it's something he won't ever get back and I wouldn't want my son to ever blame me for not having his father there but at the same time I feel he hasn't don't anything to deserve being there.. Any advice? Thanks in advance.
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I wouldn't let him be there for the reason of how he has done you and your son. bc he kicked you out while youre pregnant with his kid. True things goes wrong and people grow apart but why kick you out when he stayed gone for two weeks? i mean you deserve better girl and so does your baby. and from personal experience it doesnt get much better after the baby is born. but no one can make that decision but you and i think you deserve more respect than what youre receiving. Theres a time to party and there's a time to grow up an he should have grew up already. Do what's best for you and baby❤ Just bc you dont allow him to be there for delivery doesnt mean your son will hate you for it. Allow him to be in his life after hes born and if he chooses not to then thats on him. good luck!!!:)
If you're strong enough to allow him there, then invite him. If he doesn't show, don't blame yourself, you did what you could! If he does come, just remember you have the option of throwing him out too if he stresses you out! Good luck!
Ugh that is a tricky one , I would say to let him be there just because it's an eye opening experience. it might help him change to be a better man or maybe it might not but you can try to give him that opportunity . if that were me I'd be like so pissed and I would not want him to be there but then again because of all of that info you just stated you can be the bigger person at the end of the day and your son will know you werent selfish when he gets older. but remember there's always a limit to everything ♡
Amen girl you are right @kbrown91