Feeling so pissed off and need a rant...
Had a phone call from social services today for apparently neglecting my daughter, they are wanting to come out and look at how good of a mum I am. My sister offered to look after her for a few hours yesterday for me as I hadn't slept the night before due to being in pain and my mum had my daughter for an hour for me in the evening to relax and have a bath. My oh was at work and college during the day.
Do people think this makes me a bad mum for taking people up on their offers to look after my daughter? I now feel like I shouldn't of done it as she's my daughter.. 😥
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Having children is definately not the easiest thing in the world! Everyone has hard times with or without kids! & hmm my advice would be perhaps only tell her like the bare minimum from now on and then she'll get the message that you dont trust her any more but it sucks they cant tell you who called because you'll be suspecting everyone I imagine! I'd be hitting the roof, so your doing well to be so chilled! xx
I just feel its all a waste of time tbh. Yes I've had times where I've found things hard but who doesn't have times like theses. The person I believe to have done this is meant to be my daughter Godmum, which is think has annoyed me even more @co135 xx
Its probably just some nosey trollop sticking thier nose in hun, besides im sure if there was an issue your family would have noticed and would have mentioned it to you, the social will probably ask a few questions, watch how you interact with her, have a nosey around and thats about it, id imagine. If people are THAT concerned why not say something to you? rather than potentially stressing you out & wasting your time with a suprise from the social as well as wasting there time! xx
That is what I didn't understand my daughter was with her family. I'm hoping they don't stay for long and that they say it's all fine. I do my best for her and provide her with everything @co135 xx
your leaving your daughter with family so you can catch up with sleep or have a bath! its not like your handing her to anyone on the street... its family they cant say anything negative, dont stress, as long as you know your doing a good job thats all that matters! as long as your daughter has a roof over her head, food in her belly and clothes on her back and is loved, your NOT a bad mum! my friend had an ex ring up about her lil girl they came to visit her and because her living room was covered in toys and her daughter was doing all the normal things they said she was fine and left. xx
They didn't tell me who told them but only a few people knew my sister and mum offered to have my daughter for me. And something to do with making sure that she's safe, I can look after her as I have depression and other reasons that they were not aloud to disgust with me. Which I find stupid as I no a few mums with depression @baby316 xx
No it certainly doesn't make you a bad mum. Children are tiring and we all need a little help sometimes. You are only doing what's best for your daughter by getting rest so you can look after her properly and there is no harm in that. Did social services say what they were coming out or who told them you weren't doing a good job? Xx
If people are offering I wasn't going to say no. They were concerned about my sister having cause she of her age. She's 17, and loves her niece to pieces @tamz0569
No it doesn't make u a bad mum at all. I live with my inlaws and they watch my kids whilst I have a bath or drop my 5 year old school or pop out quickly. Don't be so hard on yourself. Someone offered to look after your child so u can just catch up on a few things. There's totally no harm in that.
She knows how hard it is as she's got a month old baby. I am defo going to be careful who i tell stuff to from now on. I'm trying to stay calm as I no what's she's like she would run back to social if I go mad at her. Thank you @co135 xx