Okay, (bare with me because this might be lengthy) My roommate is male. He is friendly, kind, great with kids and caring…
Okay, (bare with me because this might be lengthy) My roommate is male. He is friendly, kind, great with kids and caring for me during this pregnancy like my soon to be son is his. He gets my cravings when I ask, no matter what time, if I need anything at all such as gas for my car, a foot rub, someone to make me tea or soup he's on it. Now, there's some female (whom I've never met) but he's dealt with who's claiming to be pregnant by him. He doesn't believe her or even if she is he doubts that the child is his because the day that they slept together she also slept with several other people at the party. (Weird I know lol) anyway... He doesn't do anything at all for her during her pregnancy but told her to keep her receipts for anything baby related and if they child is his he'll reimburse her for 3/4 of the babies costs. She's upset he KNOWS my child isn't his (I moved in maybe a month ago and I'm damn near in my third trimester) but he caters to my needs and treats me better than he treats her. He's just my roommate, I've never slept with him, never even kissed, laid or held hands with him but he and his friends are super sweet to me and take great care of me. Should I care or try to influence him to do more for her? He doesn't really know her she's just a train from a party a few months ago. She's 5 months she claims. But I know what it feels like to have the father of your child completely ignore you and focus on someone else and I feel like if she really is pregnant and it really is his kid he's missing out on great stuff like ultrasounds and baby kicks. He says he's not missing it cause he gets all the info and experiences from me. Idk... It's a weird situation lol thoughts or advice? Tell him to be more involved? Or leave it alone?
Jourdyn·
Мама дочки (3 года), беременна (32 нед.)
Yeah it's kinda like that now. Since I've moved in she's called about "complications " and "concerns" like he's a doctor. And then gets upset if he tells her to go the hospital. She wants him to come over cause if I call and say I'm sick or hurt or something he comes home.
Kristen·
Мама четверых детей, беременна
My boyfriend went through the exact situation. He told her the same thing, that he would reimburse her and be involved after he finds out if the kid was his. he didnt want to get mentally involved knowing theres a chance the kid wasnt his and he didnt want anything to do with her. She called about dumb stuff, when we started datin she really blew his phone up saying the baby may have down syndrome and what not. it all boiled down to jealousy. she had the baby and took a week for her to tell him and the baby wasnt his by no means. and she kept changing her due date as well. @jo_legend
JC·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (38 нед.)
Tell him to be more involved
Jourdyn·
Мама дочки (3 года), беременна (32 нед.)
Yeah I conceived on BC too. He's getting a test. Just not until the baby gets here and he barely knows her, not to mention he doesn't think the timeline meets up either. So he said if it's his, great, he'll reimburse what what bought, sign the certificate and want joint custody but if not she needs to call the other ppl she was ran on
Jes·
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Well I'd get a maternity test. They can do it while the baby is in the womb. Sex makes babies, lol. My sister was on BC and her guy had on a condom when she got pregnant. It broke and they didn't realize it but it's still crazy, aha. But it's wild how he'll take care of you and not even do much for her or even attempt to straighten things out.
Jourdyn·
Мама дочки (3 года), беременна (32 нед.)
@jesjeslovesyou, see that's what I want him to avoid. I don't want her or anyone else to be able to throw salt on his name like he's a deadbeat because he'd be an excellent father, he's just trying to cover himself. He slept with this girl along with ATLEAST 4 other ppl months ago and she pops up months later claiming to be 5 months pregnant with HIS child. She hasn't contacted any of the other participants from that night and he used a condom. So I see his skepticism I just don't want it to backfire in the slight chance that she is pregnant with his kid.
Jes·
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The possibility could lead to him being the father though. He sounds like a bum. How are you going to help someone who couldn't possibly have your child yet dismiss the person who could very well be the mother of your child? That's sick. Lol.. Ain't shit😩😩😂😂
Yladrea N. Drummond·
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I honestly feel like he is being reasonable with even offering to pay if it is his. The fact that they had no true relations beyond that train encounter I'd be skeptical too. And I wouldn't be involving myself, taking off work, etc. to go to appointments for a child that may not be mine you know.
Kandice Stedman·
Мама сына (9 лет), беременна (18 нед.)
Sadly there r a lot of girls like that. It happens. Odds are that it could be anyone she slept with that night.
Jourdyn·
Мама дочки (3 года), беременна (32 нед.)
@kandice_stedman86, yeah he said the only reason she wants it to be his is because she knows he wants a kid (he doesn't have any) so she knows he's take care of the baby no matter what
Kandice Stedman·
Мама сына (9 лет), беременна (18 нед.)
I honestly wouldn't push it. He's not denying responsibility at all. He's being a man about the situation but bottom line is that she had a train ran on her and he was one of the partakers. girls need to think about sum of the dumb stuff they do and how she know it's his is she was having sex with other people. Sounds like he will step up when the baby gets here if he is the father.
Jackee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей), беременна
he has to know that the possibility exists and I think he's handling it in the appropriate manner because he said that he would reimburse her, what can he do really? there's a huge chance that the baby isn't his.
Jourdyn·
Мама дочки (3 года), беременна (32 нед.)
Yeah that's what I told him but he can get it for free at the hospital once the baby is born and its non invasive. So he said he'll wait until then for test. Only problem with that is he'd already have missed the entire pregnancy if it's his. He says if he does all the crap for her and then finds out its not his he'd have wasted his time taking care of a baby he'll never see again and a female he doesn't know or care about. He says atleast with me we're good friends. He knows he'll see my son, my daughter adores him and we have a great friendship so he helps me cause he considers us family.
Miranda·
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I believe he could get a DNA test . I've heard you can get one after 16 weeks I think . And he doesn't know if the kid is his since she's slept with other guys that night . That's probably why his not involved