Non baby related question BUT REALLY NEED ADVICE! My SO has been asking me for awhile now if we can…

An old co-worker of mine & her husband are swingers (3 somes with females/males) he ended up cheating on her even after her doing that just to make him happy I personally would never do it & neither would my boyfriend I'm not ok with as well as him but some people just do it to satisfy their partner and not to hurt their relationship..

This shouldn't even be a question!! ... Fuck that!! .. I would slap his face off just by mentioning it ..

I wouldn't be comfortable with that at all it's a two person relationship not three I just see it causing more problems down the line

Me, i wouldn't be upset. There are things another woman can do that i can't and i understand that. Would i agree to it? No. But, the fact that he would ask and not just go cheat is a great sign. It's not that he isn't content with you. Some men are just really kinky and like to try wild stuff. You are not obligated to do that at all. Make it clear it's not an option and you wouldn't like to discuss it again or if you'd like to try it let him know that as well. There's nothing wrong with experimenting and it could liven your sex life up a lot. Good luck regardless. :)

Their are couple's that are okay with bringing in another person, and thats cool but if you are both okay with it and. In my opinion i wouldnt want my partner with anyone but me, if he is looking or even think of others then hes wanting more. its like cheating with permission. if never understood swingers or any of that because thats not love.

I get where both of you are coming from @_stephanie.g @gor_jess and at first I was pissed when he brought it up but then anger surpassed and it honestly just turned into pain. Like how could he even ask me something like that? What makes him think I would be okay with seeing him with another female? Honestly just heartbreaking 💔

@naomiedgd, If he's just content with me, obviously there's a problem. I don't want someone that's just gonna be content instead of happy.

I would be very offended if my husband asked but the times we live in people want to experience everything maybe ask him how would he feel if it was two men and you? I hope he gets it Hell NO dude

Watch if it was the other way around aka ( you asking for a 3sum with another guy all hell breaks loose)

Let him know how you feel. I would feel the same way if my boyfriend was to ever ask me that @mellmell

He wasn't even really thinking about ur feelings

@mrscruz0530, I agree, I feel like it'll end up just causing problems. but my thing is, what if not doing it just causes problems too?

I can't speak for him, love. You would know more than me how he feels about you. I understand where your feelings could be really hurt. But, i don't think he intended to hurt you. I think you should talk to him and tell him how you are feeling.

@ayanhigirl, That's basically how I would feel if I said yes to that. Like he'd be cheating with permission 😫

@wafiyahd, I did ask him that. He said he's not gay so that's not an option and that I've been with women before so I should be okay with it 😑

@thenykaf, I honestly don't think he was. I did ask him that question. He just says he's not gay. and because I've been with women before I should be okay with it. 😑

@naomiedgd, I've tried talking to him. All he says is it's just a want not a need. So it's fine if it doenst happen. but it bothers me so much how he even wants it to happen 😫

well then I don't think he's the right guy he should love you for you and be happy with you I get every guy fantasizes but for it to cause problems then don't stick around it's not fair to you to get hurt ask him if he would feel comfortable with another guy im sure he wouldn't be and hopefully he would get how it hurts like he's not good enough. I would sit him down and see why he wants this and what he's really getting out of it but for me it would piss me off with him even asking

@mellmell but your with him and the past is over so tell him Hell No lol

@mrscruz0530, @wafiyahd I agree. I've always felt like if you love someone they should be all you want.

My thoughts exactly

Ok ask him if he would be willing to watch you and another guy?

me and my SO talked about that and we both said we were selfish AT THE SAME TIME lol but now 8 years in and it has been mentioned a couple times. I told him is he joking or is he forreal and i never got a answer. so i told him if it was the first year in our relationship then maybe because then it would show if you were worth being with after it happened and if it would be for the experience or something you wanted to do often but we are on baby #2 and i know for damn sure your not bored but if you are and feel a threesome will make it better then i should pack my stuff now.

My SO has been asking for awhile and frankly I want to throat punch him every time he asks me that it disgusts me to all hell when he asks to me it's pretty much giving them permission to cheat on u in front of u all hell no cause what's going to happen when they like that other woman and start trying to have a relationship behind ur back no way my SO and his ex cheated on each other and I will not put up with that crap she may have but not me we are having our second baby together before I got pregnant again he was always accusing me of cheating I'm like I don't leave the house ur ass does so who's the one cheating not me he hates it but now we're fine and he knows

I did it once.. my husband kept asking and I was skeptical at first. I tried it for him didn't really enjoy it but he enjoyed himself and I feel like it made us closer but that doesn't happen every time. if you don't want to do it then tell him you never want to do it and if he respects you he will drop it.