@crunchymomma, @bluerose351 yeah its all the gunk that isn't in the ear canal but on the outer part of the ear if that makes sense. I tried rubbing it off with a washcloth but i had to rub kinda hard to get it off and I dont want to hurt her that's why I was wondering if there was anything else

Don't use anything. Eventually it will work out itself into the earlobe and you can just wipe it with a tissue

q tips actually push the earwax back into the babies ear, and it builds up in front of the ear drum potentially making it hard for him to hear. if you use them long enough and enough wax builds up there it will actually become hard and solid and the doctor will have to use a tool to break it out and remove it (it happened to me when I was younger. it was not pleasant at all)

a wet wash cloth qtips aren't safe

they have infant qtips