I agree with everyone else also, she had every right to be upset it's her child but honestly she will be just as happy with a healthy baby. I struggled getting pregnant too, there is no reason you needed to call her a kid behind you being upset over something childish. No one should have to morph their feelings because you struggled

Sorry I'm going to have to agree with everyone else @jewelslittlefield I feel like this status was worded very rudely. First of all we're all women and adults here, she is not a kid. Second she may be disappointed but how does that effect you, why do you have to post a status about her? Private message her and see if she wants to talk. Don't put her down and judge her because she's not happy about the gender of her child. Try and help her get through it and see the positive

Gender disappointment is a real thing and real thing that's very hard to deal with just because she's upset with the gender doesn't mean she's ungrateful to be able to get pregnant and carry a healthy child I had horrible gender disappointment this time I so badly wanted a little girl instead I am having my 3rd boy so I feel for her but this is exactly why people don't open up about gender disappointment because we always get accused of being in greatful we are far from ungrateful

it's my personal opinion!!

yes ma'am you can @alibaker21

we should not judge because they easily get pregnant. what does her being young have anything to do with it? if they tell me girl, I will probably feel the way @littlemissrainesmommy did. its not like she said she's giving the babe up for adoption because she didn't get the gender she wants. that would be ungrateful.

@alibaker21, what you say makes more sense. it's hard to see someone be so distraught about a miracle.

@littlemissrainesmommy, can I message you?

how do you know she's ungrateful? are you in her shoes? do you even know what ungrateful means? I TTC'd forever, suffered losses, charted, tempt, took ovulation and pregnancy tests every month. I sat there and watched friends and family have babies. I was the broken hearted for a long time. now that I am pregnant, I'm excited, but trust me... I do not want them to tell me I'm having a girl. it is my biggest fear in the world. and even though I would love her to death, I hope they tell me it's a boy. does that make me ungrateful?

So just because another woman doesn't have fertility issues she can't be upset and rant because she isn't having the gender she wants? No maam, that's not how that works.

@littlemissrainesmommy, I wanted a baby girl but I'm having a boy. I have fertility problems and that's why this hurts my feelings. I'm 33 weeks and yeah I wanted a girl but with my whole adult life being a struggle with having a baby, I'm so damn greatful!

but do you actually know that she was ungrateful?? or is that just how your mind perceived her words?? either way, it's not your place to judge anyone.

@jewelslittlefield, when I found out I was having a daughter I cried for days. I was pissed at the world. I was completely depressed.. But I wasn't ungrateful that I was having a healthy baby girl, just upset that I wasn't having a healthy baby boy first. Unless you've actually felt the physical, mental, and emotional sting that gender disappointment causes, then you should try to be more understanding. Your words hurt, they aren't supportive. They are just judgemental.

disappointment doesn't get judgment, being ungrateful does.

gender disappointment is a real thing. I'm sure she's happy baby is healthy, but no need to judge

I agree at a certain extent, but when you express how offset you are with the gender then that's ungrateful!

There is nothing wrong with gender disappointment. it's actually extremely common. people just don't talk about it because how judgemental others are.

You should just be happy the baby is healthy regardless of the gender 😔