having a hard time deciding when to have my baby shower. my daughter came 3 week's early on 11/2/15…

having a hard time deciding when to have my baby shower. my daughter came 3 week's early on 11/2/15 this baby is due 10/20/16 but will be repeat c section at 39(10/13/16) weeks given no complications arise. my husband's birthday is 9/24 so last year we had baby shower with my husband's birthday party and it was awful honestly. when do you ladies think would be a good time? I am already struggling with the fact I'll be having my daughter's first birthday party at the end of October so I'll still be kinda sore from the surgery and have my newborn as well. I'm so completely lost.