I need advice on how to handle this! 😒
I need advice on how to handle this! 😒
🚨FYI! There will be inappropriate language below, if you can't handle it don't read on, this is also pretty LONG!)
I've been fighting with my husband over our sons name. He & his parents named both my sons, which was bullshit back then & still bullshit today. Let me explain this!
I planned to name my son, Mason Ronald the day I got our BFP, my husband was fully aware! My grandpa who meant not only a lot to me, but also to my 3 children, had passed away a day before we found out, his name Ronald. Now my kids knew him, he was a giant part of their lives! They loved him dearly as he loved them. My dads name is Ron, after his dad, my parents were only able to have me, so my dad never got to pass that name on. So it's been handed to me to pass on, & that's exactly what I intend on doing. Here's where the problem comes in, my husband when we first found out we were pregnant was approached by his mom, she was begging him to name this baby after her "Tracey" if it was a girl. I instantly told him to fuck off. Well then we find out we've got ourselves another little boy! & bam! Here comes his mom! This time she's using her dad. She tells my husband we should name him Tracy that's her dads name, so he can pass it on because she is also an only child. & says it would mean a lot to him. Well! Her dad, was barley ever around her kids, my kids don't know who the hell he is, he's a nice guy, but what has he ever done to deserve to have my child take his name? Not a thing! My husband barley knows the man. So here I am! I laughed! I looked at my husband after pointing this all out to him & said, this has nothing to do with your grandpa, it's your mom, trying to squeeze her name in my kids name. This women who also! Has nothing to do with my children because she's "busy" 😂 they have close to nothing to do with my already kids, but damn do they wanna name them! 😡 my husband stands his ground with this(I married a mommas boy!) & is demanding that name goes in making my son "Mason Ronald Tracy Hicks" he guilt trips me saying " I know you hate it, but it means a lot to me, like Ronald does to you & you know I hate that name, but I love you and respect you enough to not take that name from you." Bullshit bullshit! His parents don't like the name Mason, so they and my husband thought they could take up calling him " RT" hell fucking no! That's not his name! I straighten that shit out quick! My husband and I cannot talk about this without a giant blow out so here's where it's left us and where I need advice.
I told my husband okay, we will put the name in there, BUT I will not recognize It for one damn minute & I don't if you follow my posts you know I call him Mason Ronald, when people ask me what we're naming him Mason Ronald Hicks. I don't mention Tracy one time because I know it's all just my in laws trying to make themselves known. I've done told him, if someone comes up to me and calls my son "RT" the conversation will be "My sons name is Mason, RT was and attempt by my in laws to name my son, if their telling you that, you should know their crazy." I have no problem making them look like fucking idiots if they wanna play that damn game. OR! I could just not deal with any of that & NOT put the name on his birth certificate. People have told me tons of times, not to if I don't want to, I legally have the last say, not my husband. But I know my husband will loose his motherfucking shit if I pull a fast one like that on him. That I also don't want to deal with. But it's starting to sound sweeter and sweeter everyday.
What would you do in this situation?
missing268user·
I would do the same thing you chose to, Put the name Tracey third( that's a girl name anyway) to make t hm shut the hell up and DONT acknowledge it because then his mom believes she can get her way whenever. Stick to calling the baby Mason Ronald like YOU want. You desevres to me your baby.
Danielle Amelia Thomson·
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I say when the nurse comes in they will ask YOU. Not him, YOU.
Danielle Amelia Thomson·
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You make the decision. They will not actknowledge the father.
Mimi·
All I have to say is ITS YOUR KID Not theirs
Nesha·
Мама троих детей
I would leave the name out, your husband can't stay mad forever!
Kristin·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
it's a lose lose situation. .. either way one of you will be upset. but if your in laws had say in the first kids names.. I would say it's your turn.
Danielle Amelia Thomson·
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Name him what you want to name him. You are pushing him out.
Branda Lee·
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I fell into the same situation, hence why my son's name is going to be Hesher James Nacho Moore. I just wanted Hesher James Moore, but his father was intent on the Nacho part. James is a family name on my dads side, and he only had me. (Great Grandfather Jimmy, PawPaw Jim, Dad James, ect further back) And i fought for four months just to get the James in the name. Now my family does but doesn't recognise the Nacho part. They look at it more as a nickname, But still call him little Hesher or Heshie for short.
My mother's side is a little iffy about the name but feel that it is my decision on how his name is. Everyone has just taken to calling him Heshie or his real name, Hesher. Now, once he is born i will ask my SO of he is sure about the Nacho part, i figured he would want a family name instead. But even now it's not the case. As far as I am concerned, Im happy i at least got my James part in it.
I kind of settled and compromised....
missing300user·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@wiccanmommy, that's exactly how I feel about it. This isn't going to have a good outcome either way I do it, I just want to make the mature choice. I want it to be known that I'm not doing either to just be a bitch or have my mil telling people I don't like her or whatever. I just want the right choice. 😳
maizie Rowe·
Мама дочки-младенца
If they already named your first two kids than I don't see the problem in you naming one for yourself . I say you talk to him and tell him your not going to do it , and give him the list of reasons why , don't let him guilt trip you into it , she's not around anyways so why should it matter to her . If your not even going to regonize it than why put it ? Just an extra name he's gonna have to learn how to write .
missing300user·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@gulfcstgurl, I see what your saying, but I don't feel I need to compromise this time around. My first son, Michael Hemi his dad and his dad's dad is Michael, no biggie, then his dad and mom throw the name Hemi out there. I didn't like it but it was my husbands first son and he loved it so I let him have it. My 2nd son: Myles Mayhem I barley got Myles, which I later find out is my husbands dads half brothers last names ( they pulled a fast one) Mayhem, my husband parents my husband loved it! I got pissed but I got Myles. Now here we are again. I think it's my turn.
Dawna·
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I would continue to let it be known that you do NOT want Tracy to be in his name. I would personally fight it up until the day he is born that way it's not a shock when you don't put it on the birth certificate.
missing300user·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@hermommy, @frankiesmama I think I've already made my point with her. When I first would post belly, ultrasound pics or even talking about him, I'd call him Mason. She however commented one time & said " don't you mean RT" so! I ignored that & now everytime I post anything about him on FB, I #MasonRonaldHicks 😂 she know longer comments or even likes stuff about him. I think that's why my husband is so angry when the conversation comes up, I think he thinks I'm not going going too. He's expecting a fast one. & I think his parents aren't expecting it anymore either. I'm sure I won't make a full decision until he's here.
Kylee·
Мама дочки (5 лет), беременна (29 нед.)
I got severely pissed off reading this. If you mil wanted someone to be named Tracy she should have named one of her own kids that. my bf hates the name I chose for my daughter which is Marlea (marley) after my 2 nieces Marcella and Leanorah. but in the long run its your baby boy not hers so you name him.
missing268user·
@soontobemomof4 that's the best way to be girl, make the decision when he is here that's the best choice. Personally I wouldn't because that's not fair and you made the name you wanted known, they are wrong for trying to push you into it. But definitely keep your husband in mind not his mom. He should understand your point though.
Leah·
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I agree with @mrshamilton830 @gingermama don't use Tracy you have the say they will get over it
Danielle Amelia Thomson·
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You need to make a stand hun. Its your turn. You push it out. You name it. 😂
Haylee·
Мама сына-младенца
If they named the first 2 then why not name one for yourself? I have a MIL like that and I don't pay any mind to her and I always do the opposite of what she wants and she finally quit