agree with @myjulyprincesseli ! money doesn't make a person a father, but the love they give does. most mothers don't work/have money, so do that mean they aren't mothers? No. I would still let my kids see their father if we weren't together. if you keep the kids away from their dad over money they're going to resent you once they're older, because its not really an excuse to keep him away

exactly that's how I feel. just let's you know whether he still has your back atleast for the kids. to me money ain't an issue if he left we mothers always try and make ends meet. if that happens keep your cool and hopefully he does help because you do have his kids you know... and money doesn't give the father the privilege to be one.. but the love he has for them. personally I wouldn't care about the money no matter how much I need it as long as he wants to be around them.. might call me stupid.. but I rather not over react about money and let him be a father atleast by loving them. I don't want to be the fault for why my kids don't see him over money.

Nope, and legal in most states if he doesn't help with child support and you have his babies out of wedlock then he has no rights to visitation

no. if he won't help out then he shouldn't. my ex boyfriend doesn't help so he doesn't see my daughter. but his mom sent me stuff so she gets to see her.

@myjulyprincesseli, yes I'm not in that situation yet but if I need anything I will ask him but if he turns me down then it just let's me know what kind of person he is

Why should he get the privileges of a father without bearing the responsibility of a father. That's how I see it.

I still would .. I have them all the time and If he doesn't want to help let that be in his mind.. I wouldn't react mad just let it be and I'm sure he'll have some type of heart to help and if not then he's just a jackass.

Nope. Thats exactly my situation apartbfrom his crazy old girlfriend.