Has anyone ever filed domestic charges on the person they love and gone through with it? when there's a child involved? on one hand I feel like I'm doing the right thing but then again I don't.
no. he's only 15 months he loves his dad! that's what makes it hard @gcpaschal
@aidensmommy110, don't consider it DO IT! Love you and your son enough to get that man out of your life. If a man will hit you and especially in front of his child there is no telling what he is capable of. It's not fair to possibly leave your child without his Mom. This is a no brainer. Is your son scared of his father?
No.. I should have because we waived a loaded gun in my face with my son who was 2 at the time standing in between us.. He was very controlling, manipulative and guilt tripped me.. He took my son and left.. I cried so bad that night I gave myself a sinus infection.. I'm kicking myself now for not charging him.. But that very next morning I was at the courthouse before the doors opened to get a restraining order and get my son back.. I had him back by I think it was around 3 or 4 in the afternoon.. Don't hesitate with stuff like this.. I can't stress it enough..
Yes.. I had an order of protection.. I had to sit a few blocks away waiting for a sheriff to call me and say it was ok to go pick my son up.. I sat in my car with a cop blocking my driver door while he put my son in his car seat.. He then had no contact with our son for 2 weeks until we went to court.. You have to do what you have to in order to protect the babies and yourself!
He's a narcissist, it sounds like. It's not healthy. Your baby doesn't deserve that, and you don't deserve that. I'm glad you're standing up for yourself! And yes, if he can't control his anger with you, chances are eventually he will not be able to control his anger with your son.
I filed the charges and got the order of protection and I have a court date and I keep second guessing everything. I'm tired of crying I just wanna be civil! I know he loves our son. this is the second time he did something violent in front of aiden. I don't want aiden growing up seeing that. idk deep down I don't think he would hurt him intentionally but others say u never know where his anger will take him. the most simple things set him off it's always towards me. then he tells me it's my fault. no sorry no nothing just my fault. he's acting like I did this I did something wrong and I didn't. @unbecomingme
Never done it but I say if you're considering it you should probably go through with it. You don't want there to be another incident and you sit back and say you should've done something sooner.
Hugs, momma! It is extremely tough. I've never filed charges, even when I should have, and now I wish I had. So, I would say file them. Your child's parent is dangerous. If he hit you once, he will do it again(whether it's you or not)
He made the choice to raise his voice and hand at you. He needs to see consequences. But I know it's gotta be tough. Try to stay strong and look into some domestic violence therapy/hotlines.
@aidensmommy110, ok..I'm going to get off this post. He's only 1. He loves his Dad because he doesn't quite understand what's going on. I'm going to pray for you. A violent person is not a good father. I would hurt my husband or kill him if he ever laid a hand on me.