And just to clear the air, just because someone is put on child support doesn't mean they have to pay it, I've never got a dime.. but I don't press the issue either!

You know what Im gonna message you my number and go ahead and message me whenever you want if you need to vent csuse you literally do not need or deserve the stress you are goin through right now.

Yeah right who ever told you that is full of shit! Lol I had my daughter 8 years ago, and never had a problem, I was in a 4 year relationship, single for 3 years " to get emotionally stable" and I've been with my husband for a year now!

wtf!? well that person needs to be out of your life. There's plenty of men that would help you raise your kid as if it were their own. Its not like you have 10kids to accept.

@aljf, @answeredprayer16 @gingermama the baby was guna take my last name either way, i was told no ones ever guna want me with a baby...

I'm not sure how the legal stuff works but if you can do this....I would have your daughter have your last name, put him on the birth certificate as the dad and then get his ass for child support. he should at least have to help you pay for diapers and clothes and whatever else until she's 18. in my opinion

exactly why go for bologna when you got a steak!!! your not dumb, you have a good heart, something he doesn't appreciate! someone will one day!

You are not an idiot hun.. Ive hit my head purposely off the road once to fake that I fell off my bike when I saw my, now husband, 4 years ago passing me. It was stupid, but I did it cause I was in love, and wanted his attention. You love him, and that doesnt make you an idiot. That makes you a person with a heart that cares a lot, and the fact that you are trying to hold onto him just to keep your family together tells me you will be a loving, wonderfull mother, and in my opinion, he doesnt deserve you. You are out of his league. Any man who throws away a gem to pick up a rock is the real idiot. Withlovechris is right, love doesnt hurt. Fake love does. He clesrly doesnt care, and you deserve far more than this

@aljf, i walked away for 3 months when I was around 20 weeks, now im so far along - i wanted us to work, i wanted him to be here for the kicks, and her.. It hurt so bad to walk away the firs time, all I did was cry. I didnt want to have to go through it again I thought it would be different.

Love doesn't hurt

This isnt the first time hes done this.. Im almost 99% sure hes talking to another girl named Samantha scratch that I KNOW they are talking.. And i know its past friendship talking... And ive ignored it, and kept thinking maybe he loved me more, maybe he would chose us if i kept trying.. All he would do is lie about it. His dad slipped up and said in front of me that she was at his house 2 days before I was there.. I guess im just an idiot.. @gingermama

send it to him, and just leave it at that.. show you don't care, your fed up.. and when he tries to flip it on you, ask him what's it really matter? he's just mad he got caught up.. you seem really sweet, I've grown heartless in situations like these and I'm a big bitch, sorry I feel like im making it sound so easy I know it's not! be strong!

Be strong. Cant have the baby grow up to think its okay to lie to people. ❤

Just monitor how he acts. When you feel he truly feels like shit and will be reasonable, ask him to explain.

Dont respond to him at all. Ignore him. Until he acts reasonable, just ignore him. I dont mean dont read his messages, but I wouldnt answer his calls. He needs to feel like he lost you.

@aljf, @gingermama I tried calling again, and got no answer, so i guess I should just send the screenshot and not reply anymore. Hes going to flip this on me, hes going to make me the bad guy and make me feel like shit again 😪 I cant keep doing this.. Its killing me everyday Ive never felt so alone in my life..

You love him, yeah but you have to love your self and that baby more, bc from the looks of it, he's not loving you like you should be loved.. I've been where you are with my first daughters dad, and I left.. the hardest part was staying strong! it's okay to cry, your going to feel lonely, and your gunna wanna go back.. just be strong, better said then done ik! if anything you can always talk to me.. when I left mine 8 years ago, I would text my best friend what I wanted to text him or say to him.. she was my back bone!

My and my husband have had 3 issues, all 3 on his part. I didnt let him get away with it, I fought it, and showed him I knew, and clearly let my feelings out on the subjects. He realized I wasnt going anywhere, but if he continued this, I was. We have been problem free for 2 to 3 years.

Hun if you love him send that screen shot.. He needs to know he hurt you, you are in pain, while pregnant with his child, and feeling alone, he needs to know you need him to explain this, you need him to be honest. If he doesnt want to, then he just isnt worth the time to fix things. Work up the courage to send that screen shot.

Awww that's really fucked up smh then you pregnant

Im scared to send him the screenshot :( i love his so fucking much 💔 i love what i thought we had.. I miss him so much already.. I hate having to be strong and go through this alone. I dont know what to say or do and why im laying here blaming myself who knows.. @aljf @countrymama166 @gingermama @bellahali

Girl leave him, let him know you know and then act like you don't care, as much as you might be hurting on the inside don't let it show on the outside, he doesn't care about you nor your feelings, why care about him? I know your trying to make your family work but it never will when it's only you trying! you got this be strong, worry about your baby!

Don't lett it happen to you again love! It's time to walk away! He will never change, maybe when he's older but as of right now it seems he has other things on his mind when you and his child should be First. I say show him your serious and not afraid to walk away and be alone. (even if in reality you are) Don't let him see it, just leave and show him what its like without you. If he doesn't care or realize it he never will and wasn't worth it anyway! I been there and was dumb enough to waste 5 years of my life and 2 years of my daughters life begging him to be around when all he really wanted was to was abandon us both he felt like he was stuck with us, until one day he left us and I didn't go chasing him this time. and we never heard anything of him for 3 years......then our daughter passed and he still didn't even come to her funeral. What I am saying is honey.....don't waste your precious time chasing a man.....if he cares you wont need to. All you need is your daughter and all your daughter needs is 100% of you. If I could go back and be alone all 5 years with just my daughter I would.

Never ever lower yourself. You do not need to chase after him. You are worth so much more than that. He needs to realize what you are doing for him, giving him a child, and if he isnt going to appriciate you, he doesnt deserve you.

If he truly gives a shit he will reach out to you

Send him a picture of that and then ignore him all day

Damn I'm so sorry what a jerk he doesn't deserve you !!!!

I'm sorry you're going through this. Wait till he gets home or when you're in person to talk about this. You don't want him to make up an excuse like "oh my friend was on my phone" blah blah blah crap. You are a strong and beautiful woman and you don't deserve this.

@gingermama, @bellahali im still in utter shock and he wont answer his phone

What an asshole

Chop off his dick

Yeah this is the same guy who wont answer his phone at all today but can message her back instantly. Great isnt it? Ive tried so damn hard for this our "family" @nadeah @jennatess

Mine straight up says Im his wife.

Wooooooow.

Oh wow smh that's messed up

You need to leave. You deserve so much better.

@mother.of.angels, im destroyed yet again by the same guy...

gosh girl I'm sorry! thats terrible what a douche bag. :(