Thanks everyone for your advice. I know exactly what I need to do now..

big girl panties on and diapers gone. she'll get the hint pretty quick. expect accidents for a while...as long as she's staying dry most of the time, she's doing well. That's usually all it takes with 3 year olds. If that doesnt work,I would try to take advantage of a few days of you being home with her. Set an alarm for every 30 minutes the first day. Every hour until noon the next. Every 2 hours the later half of the day. And only when she says she has to on the 3rd. If she is having accidents, have her take off her clothes and put them in a dirty basket. hand her a pair of new undies to put on. Every time she hoes, reward her with a sticker or MnM. That's worked wonders for my moms if they have tricky kids. (preschool teacher....I potty train like a champ😉)

My mom took me to the store and let me pick out my own first panties. Then she explained what they were for and that I wouldn't want to mess them up. She made it special and it worked

Ok I'll try that thanks.

Girl, she's 3. She knows exactly what is going on. Just take the diaper off and if she doesn't feel like going to the bathroom, make her help clean up the mess. That's how I did my (now four year old), niece at 2 (had custody of her at the time). I also work in pediatrics and that's literally what I always do with every kid who's dang well old enough to know haha.